Do My Parents Love Me Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Which description best fits transportation or other potentially dangerous situations with a parent?
They generally take reasonable precautions and do not use danger to frighten me.
They have acted aggressively or carelessly in a way that made me fear for my safety.
They repeatedly transport or supervise me while seriously impaired or behave recklessly despite my fear.
They deliberately threaten a crash, abandon me in a dangerous place, or use an immediate hazard to force compliance.
2. If you try to leave a tense room to calm down, what is most likely to happen?
I can usually step away, possibly after explaining where I am going.
A parent may follow me, shout, or briefly stand in the way, but I can ultimately leave.
A parent repeatedly blocks exits, takes away access to communication, or locks me in a space.
A parent physically restrains or confines me, or prevents me from reaching emergency help.
3. When you go to a parent or caregiver for comfort after something upsetting, what usually happens?
They listen or make a reasonable effort to comfort me, even if they need a little time.
They are sometimes distracted or awkward, but they usually return to the conversation.
They often dismiss, ridicule, or turn my feelings into a criticism of me.
They threaten or punish me for seeking comfort or showing distress.
4. What best describes a parent's involvement in exposing you to sexual material or activity?
They have not deliberately exposed me to adult sexual material or activity.
They have deliberately shown or discussed explicit material as a joke or test despite my discomfort.
They repeatedly expose me to explicit material, nudity, or sexual activity after I object or try to leave.
They force me to watch, participate, pose, create images, or interact sexually with any person.
5. How is physical punishment or the threat of it used with you?
Limits and consequences do not involve threatened or actual physical pain.
Physical punishment is threatened in a way that frightens me, even if it is not carried out.
I have been hit, struck, or made to experience pain as punishment.
I have been injured, struck with an object, forced into a painful position, or subjected to dangerous physical punishment.
6. Which statement best describes physical affection or touch from a parent or caregiver?
Touch is nonsexual, welcome, or stopped when I indicate that I do not want it.
A parent has continued a type of touch briefly after I showed discomfort, though they eventually stopped.
A parent repeatedly ignores my refusal or touches intimate areas without a legitimate caregiving or medical reason.
A parent uses force, threats, pressure, or exploitation to obtain sexual contact or make me touch someone.
7. During a heated disagreement at home, which response most closely matches what happens?
People may argue, but I am not threatened, cornered, or physically handled.
A parent sometimes uses intimidating gestures, invades my space, or damages nearby property.
A parent has grabbed, shoved, slapped, or thrown something at me without causing a known injury.
A parent has choked, pinned, kicked, used a weapon, or used force that caused or could readily cause injury.
8. How do your parents or caregivers handle your friendships and other supportive relationships?
They may raise concerns, but they generally allow reasonable contact and discussion.
They set restrictions that feel excessive at times, although I can usually question them.
They frequently pressure me to withdraw from supportive people or monitor contact to control me.
They use threats, force, or punishment to isolate me from people who could help me.
9. How do parents or caregivers talk about your body, dating, or sexuality?
Discussion is respectful, age-appropriate, and does not sexualize or shame me.
There have been comments or jokes about my body or sexuality that left me uncomfortable.
Sexualized comments, invasive questions, or humiliation happen repeatedly despite my discomfort.
Sexual comments are paired with threats, demands, coercion, or pressure to perform or demonstrate something.
10. Which statement best describes how your basic needs—such as food, suitable clothing, shelter, hygiene, or necessary healthcare—are handled?
My caregivers make a dependable, reasonable effort to meet these needs or find help.
There have been occasional gaps, but my caregivers acknowledge them and try to obtain support.
Important needs repeatedly go unmet without dependable planning, explanation, or support.
Essential food, shelter, medication, or urgent care is deliberately withheld, used as punishment, or blocked.
11. After you make an ordinary mistake, how are you typically treated at home?
The behavior is addressed without attacking my worth or making me responsible for everything.
Reactions can be sharper than the situation calls for, but they later settle or repair things.
I am repeatedly called worthless, blamed for family problems, or subjected to prolonged humiliation.
I am threatened with abandonment, homelessness, self-harm by the parent, or harm to someone unless I comply.
12. What have you experienced when physical conflict occurs between people in your home?
Disagreements have not involved physical threats, violence, or pressure for me to intervene.
I have witnessed threatening gestures, frightening property destruction, or credible threats of force.
I have repeatedly witnessed physical attacks or felt expected to step between people.
I have been forced to participate, used as a shield, targeted while intervening, or injured during the violence.
13. What best describes the responsibilities you are expected to carry in the family?
My responsibilities are generally manageable and appropriate for my age and circumstances.
I sometimes carry more emotional or practical responsibility than feels manageable.
I regularly have to manage adult problems, mediate conflicts, or provide care at the expense of my own needs.
I am threatened or punished if I do not take responsibility for a parent's safety, emotions, finances, or caregiving duties.
14. How is your privacy handled when you change clothes, bathe, or use the bathroom?
My privacy is generally respected, apart from necessary and appropriate caregiving.
A parent sometimes enters or watches after I have asked for privacy, leaving me uncomfortable.
A parent repeatedly insists on unnecessary viewing or exposure despite my objections.
A parent forces exposure, photographs or records me, or threatens consequences for covering myself.
15. Has a parent or caregiver asked you to keep body-related or sexual behavior secret?
They have not asked me to conceal sexualized comments, nudity, touch, images, or contact.
They asked me not to mention a body-related incident that felt uncomfortable or confusing.
They repeatedly pressure me to hide sexualized comments, exposure, touch, or images from other people.
They use threats, bribes, force, or blackmail to hide sexual contact, images, exploitation, or another person's behavior.