Do I Have Stockholm Syndrome Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. How are sexual photos, recordings, or private sexual information handled?
My permission is sought and my refusal is respected.
I have received an unexpected request, but the person accepted my answer.
The person repeatedly pressures me or makes affection depend on providing sexual material.
They created, kept, shared, or used sexual material without permission, or threatened to do so.
2. If you do something the person dislikes, what physical consequence seems possible?
A disagreement may follow, but I do not anticipate physical intimidation or harm.
I expect raised voices, aggressive gestures, or invasive closeness that makes me uneasy.
I expect damage to belongings, blocked movement, or dangerous behavior around me.
They have threatened or inflicted physical harm on me, themselves, another person, or an animal to control me.
3. Which description best matches the most physically intimidating incident you have experienced with this person?
Conflict has not involved physical intimidation or aggressive contact.
They moved into my space or used an intimidating posture that made me back away.
They struck walls, broke objects, drove dangerously, or used nearby violence to frighten me.
They hit, kicked, choked, restrained, assaulted, or otherwise physically injured me.
4. How does the possibility of physical escalation affect what you say or do?
I may dislike conflict, but I do not change my choices because I expect physical retaliation.
I sometimes soften my words because their anger feels physically intimidating.
I regularly avoid topics, movements, or attempts to leave because escalation seems possible.
I comply because of an immediate threat, a weapon, physical restraint, or previous assault.
5. Looking back at a sexual experience that troubles you, which statement comes closest?
I freely chose what happened and could stop without fearing consequences.
I agreed partly to avoid disappointment or tension, though I did not expect punishment for refusing.
I complied because sustained emotional pressure made refusal feel costly or difficult.
I was forced, exploited, threatened, injured, or unable to consent freely.
6. What control does the person have over your practical ability to leave or get help?
I can access communication, transport, identification, medication, and keys without their permission.
They expect updates or question my plans, but I retain practical access to what I need.
They sometimes control money, transport, a phone, documents, or keys in ways that limit my movement.
They deliberately strand, confine, threaten, or deprive me of essentials to prevent escape or help-seeking.
7. What happens when you express emotional needs, distress, or a request for care?
Responses are sometimes imperfect, but I can express needs without expecting control or punishment.
My needs are occasionally dismissed, and I sometimes stay quiet to avoid disappointment.
My needs are routinely mocked, ignored, or used against me, so I suppress them to preserve the bond.
A person responsible for my care deliberately denies essential support, exploits my distress, or threatens abandonment to control me.
8. When someone expresses concern about how this person treats you, what tends to happen inside you?
I can consider both the concern and the person's positive qualities without feeling responsible for defending them.
I quickly remember their kind moments, although I can still listen to the concern.
I minimize what happened or blame myself because acknowledging the harm feels disloyal.
I feel compelled to defend them because I fear retaliation, abandonment, or serious consequences if I do not.
9. How does this person affect your contact with friends, family, coworkers, or other sources of support?
My contact choices remain mine, even when they do not like everyone in my life.
They ask for frequent updates or express jealousy, but usually accept my boundaries.
They monitor or criticize my relationships enough that I reduce contact to avoid conflict.
They threaten, punish, deceive, or physically prevent me from contacting supportive people.
10. Which description best matches how consent has been handled when alcohol, drugs, sleep, or illness affected your ability to choose?
Sexual activity waited until I was clearly able and willing to choose.
They checked once, but I felt they paid more attention to my words than to my impaired state.
They continued despite signs that I was too impaired, confused, or unresponsive to participate freely.
They deliberately used my impairment or unconsciousness as an opportunity for sexual activity.
11. After a frightening or degrading episode, how do calmer or kinder moments affect your view of the relationship?
Kindness does not erase the episode, and I can evaluate both experiences separately.
The relief makes the kind moment feel unusually powerful, though I still recognize what happened.
Small acts of kindness lead me to question whether the mistreatment was serious or really occurred as I remember it.
After serious harm, relief or affection makes leaving feel impossible or makes me feel indebted to the person who harmed me.
12. During a disagreement, what happens if you try to leave the room, home, vehicle, or meeting place?
I can leave, even if the other person would rather continue talking.
They follow me or keep arguing, but do not block or control my exit.
They hide keys, stand in the way, or use possessions to make leaving difficult.
They physically restrain, confine, or threaten me to stop me from leaving.
13. How dependent are you on this person when making choices or meeting everyday needs?
I may rely on them in ordinary ways, but I retain meaningful choices and other sources of support.
I depend on them in one important area and would need time to arrange an alternative.
They control enough money, information, care, approval, or social access that resisting them feels difficult.
They exploit that dependence or threaten shelter, care, status, safety, or essential support to secure compliance.
14. When you have not wanted sexual contact, how has the other person generally responded?
They accepted my answer without making the relationship depend on changing it.
They asked again or tried to persuade me, but stopped when I repeated my answer.
They kept pressuring me through guilt, withdrawal, or persistent requests until I gave in.
They used force, restraint, threats, or fear to obtain sexual contact.
15. What has happened after you set a sexual limit or changed your mind?
The limit was accepted, even if the moment felt awkward or disappointing.
They became distant or upset for a while, without continuing to pursue sexual contact.
They repeatedly punished the limit through guilt, insults, accusations, or withholding affection.
They threatened harm, exposure, housing, work, money, or another serious consequence unless I complied.