Dependent Personality Disorder Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. You must choose between two courses that both suit your goals. What are you most likely to do?
Compare them and choose the one that fits my priorities, even if others prefer the alternative.
Ask one informed person for perspective, then make my own choice.
Seek opinions from several people and feel uneasy if they conflict.
Prefer someone I trust to tell me which course to take.
2. How does spending an unplanned evening alone usually feel?
Generally comfortable; I can decide how to use the time.
A little disappointing, but manageable once I choose an activity.
Quite uncomfortable, leading me to seek contact mainly to avoid being alone.
Overwhelming; I feel unable to settle or manage the evening without someone present or continuously available.
3. A relationship repeatedly leaves your needs unmet, although there is no immediate danger. Which response is closest to yours?
I evaluate what needs to change and can leave if the relationship remains unsuitable.
I seek perspective and try to address the pattern before deciding what to do.
I tolerate the pattern for a long time because ending the relationship feels frightening.
I feel I must remain regardless of my needs because being without the relationship seems impossible.
4. A person you rely on is unavailable for an entire weekend. How do you usually react?
I miss them but adjust my plans and continue with the weekend.
I feel somewhat unsettled at first, then find my own rhythm.
I remain preoccupied with when they will be available again.
I feel unable to cope with ordinary activities until contact is restored.
5. You receive a project that you are capable of completing, but no one is available to guide each step. How do you approach it?
Create a plan and begin, asking targeted questions if a real obstacle appears.
Check my initial plan with someone, then continue mostly on my own.
Delay starting while looking for someone to provide frequent direction.
Feel unable to proceed unless another person takes substantial responsibility for guiding me.
6. For ordinary choices such as what to buy, wear, or do with free time, how much reassurance do you typically seek?
Usually none; I tend to trust my everyday preferences.
Occasionally, especially when I am already undecided.
Often, because another person’s approval makes choosing easier.
Almost every time; deciding without guidance feels very uncomfortable.
7. In conversations with people whose approval matters to you, how do you handle a sincere difference of opinion?
I state my view respectfully and remain open to discussion.
I soften my view but still communicate the main disagreement.
I usually keep my disagreement private to preserve harmony.
I present myself as agreeing because the possibility of losing support feels overwhelming.
8. After making a reasonable decision, you learn that someone close to you would have chosen differently. What happens next?
I consider their view but usually remain comfortable with my choice.
I briefly review my reasoning before deciding whether to change anything.
I become doubtful and look for more reassurance before proceeding.
I am likely to change my decision mainly because I no longer trust my judgment.
9. When you face an unfamiliar but manageable everyday task, what usually happens?
I gather basic information and try it myself.
I ask for a little guidance before handling the rest.
I repeatedly check that I am doing it correctly before each new step.
I try to get someone else to take over because acting alone feels beyond me.
10. After a close relationship ends, which response best resembles your usual pattern?
I allow time to grieve and rebuild my routine before considering another commitment.
I lean on several sources of support while gradually adjusting.
I quickly focus on finding one new person who can provide similar security.
I urgently seek another close relationship because functioning without one feels unbearable.
11. A close friend proposes a plan you genuinely do not enjoy. What are you most likely to do?
Say that it is not for me and suggest another option.
Go along this time but mention that I would prefer something different next time.
Hide my preference because disagreement might change how they see me.
Agree despite strong discomfort because risking their disapproval feels intolerable.
12. When an important choice has no clearly correct answer, which response sounds most like you?
I accept some uncertainty and decide using my own values and available facts.
I consult someone whose judgment I respect, while keeping final responsibility.
I have trouble acting until multiple people support the same option.
I want a trusted person to make the final call for me.
13. A group asks you to select the restaurant for an evening out. How do you respond?
I choose a suitable place and invite people to mention practical restrictions.
I suggest a couple of places and use brief feedback to settle on one.
I keep checking whether everyone approves before confirming anything.
I try to hand the choice to someone else because being responsible for it feels too uncomfortable.
14. You have a minor disagreement with someone close to you. What thought is most likely to follow?
We can disagree and still care about each other.
I hope we resolve it soon, but I do not assume the relationship is ending.
I worry that they may pull away unless I repair things immediately.
I become convinced I may lose their support and feel desperate to prevent it.
15. Someone important to you wants you to give up a personal goal so that their plans are easier. How would you respond?
Discuss both sets of needs and protect the goal if it remains important to me.
Look for a compromise, even if I accept somewhat more of the inconvenience.
Probably set my goal aside to prevent tension or disappointment.
Give it up without voicing my needs because keeping their support feels more important.