Can You Survive a Yandere Relationship Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. What happens when you try to leave a room or end an argument?
They allow me to leave and respect my request for space.
They follow briefly and ask me to continue, but stop when I repeat my request.
They follow me from place to place or repeatedly restart the confrontation.
They block or lock an exit, take my keys, restrain me, or otherwise prevent me from leaving.
2. If you depend on them for food, medication, transportation, sleep, shelter, or other essential support, what best describes their behavior?
They respect my needs or communicate honestly and help find alternatives when support is unavailable.
They sometimes dismiss a need or fail to help even when they reasonably could.
They withhold practical support as punishment or leverage during conflict.
They deliberately prevent essential care, food, sleep, or safe shelter, or abandon me in a dangerous situation.
3. Before a new sexual activity, how do they determine whether you agree?
They ask and wait for a freely given, clear response.
They sometimes assume interest from past experiences, but stop immediately when corrected.
They treat hesitation as agreement and keep trying to persuade me.
They proceed after I say no, freeze, pull away, or cannot freely agree.
4. When you ask for time apart, how do they handle your location and movements?
They respect the request and arrange contact only if we both agree.
They send repeated check-ins or become upset when I do not answer quickly.
They demand my location or show up unexpectedly after I asked for space.
They track, follow, chase, corner, or confront me after I have told them not to.
5. When you make plans with family, friends, coworkers, or classmates, what happens?
They support my independent relationships and time apart.
They complain or sulk enough that I sometimes reconsider my plans.
They repeatedly create conflicts, guilt me, or demand that I cancel.
They threaten consequences, confine me, or otherwise force me to stay away from people.
6. How do they act when you are asleep, heavily intoxicated, very distressed, or otherwise unable to consent freely?
They wait until I am fully able to choose and communicate.
They may begin suggestive touching before checking, but stop when there is no clear agreement.
They keep trying to persuade or arouse me while my ability to choose is impaired.
They engage in sexual contact while I am asleep, incapacitated, or unable to give free consent.
7. How are phone access, passwords, and location sharing handled?
Access is optional, reciprocal if desired, and can be withdrawn without punishment.
They request frequent updates and become tense when I respond slowly.
They pressure me for passwords or inspect my device after I reluctantly give access.
They secretly access accounts, install tracking, impersonate me, or take my phone to control contact.
8. What best describes discussions about contraception or sexual-health protection?
They respect the agreed plan and my decisions about my body.
They complain or sulk about protection, although they do not interfere with it.
They repeatedly pressure or guilt me to skip protection.
They sabotage, remove, conceal, or tamper with protection without my agreement.
9. Which statement best describes violent language or weapons around you?
They have not used violent language, weapons, or objects to frighten me.
They talk admiringly about revenge or violence in general in a way that makes me uneasy.
When angry, they describe hurting other people or display violent objects to appear intimidating.
They directly threaten me or someone I care about, or use a weapon or object to threaten harm.
10. How do they treat your mistakes or vulnerabilities during conflict?
They address the issue without attacking my worth or exposing private information.
They make cutting jokes or comments, then minimize my discomfort.
They repeatedly insult, humiliate, or use sensitive information to control the argument.
They threaten to expose secrets, destroy my reputation, or harm someone unless I comply.
11. When you say that you do not want to be kissed or touched, what usually happens?
They stop and check what kind of contact, if any, feels comfortable.
They stop, but become cold or sulky afterward.
They keep asking, bargain, or make me feel guilty for saying no.
They continue, restrain me, or force contact despite my refusal.
12. What is the most concerning physical incident that has occurred?
There has been no unwanted physical contact or object-throwing.
They handled me roughly, then stopped when I objected.
They threw or struck objects during conflict, though the objects did not hit me.
They caused an injury, hit me with an object, choked me, or used force that made me fear serious harm.
13. How have they handled requests for intimate photos, recordings, or messages?
They do not ask, or they accept my refusal without pressure.
They express disappointment after a refusal but then drop the subject.
They repeatedly pressure me or call it proof of love or loyalty.
They capture, access, share, or threaten to share intimate material without my free consent.
14. A friend or classmate sends you a friendly message. How does the person you are thinking about react?
They accept ordinary contact and raise concerns without accusations.
They become jealous or seek extra reassurance, but do not demand action.
They interrogate me, accuse me of disloyalty, or pressure me to cut contact.
They threaten or punish me unless I end the friendship immediately.
15. During a heated disagreement, which response is closest to what they do?
They create space and return to the conversation without intimidation.
They raise their voice or slam a door in a way that unsettles me.
They break objects or punch walls near me.
They hit, shove, choke, restrain, or otherwise physically hurt me.