Are We Friends Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. You express an opinion they strongly disagree with. What response seems most typical?
We would probably drop the subject because our relationship does not hold much disagreement.
The conversation might become awkward, so I would soften or hide my actual view.
We could disagree respectfully, although some tension might linger.
We could explore the disagreement honestly without treating it as a threat to the friendship.
2. You have an important event coming up that this person knows about. What would you expect afterward?
I would not expect them to remember or ask about it.
They might ask if something reminds them.
They would probably check in, especially if we had discussed it recently.
They would remember and genuinely want to know how it went.
3. The two of you unexpectedly have several free hours together. How does that feel?
We would need a specific task or group activity to avoid running out of things to do.
It could be pleasant, though I would prefer having a plan or other people around.
We would probably enjoy ourselves once we chose what to do.
Time together would feel easy, whether we talked, did something spontaneous, or simply relaxed.
4. How well does this person know the parts of your life that matter most to you?
They mainly know the version of me connected to one setting or activity.
They know several basic facts but little about what those things mean to me.
They understand many of my priorities, experiences, and important relationships.
They know both my everyday world and the deeper values or experiences shaping it.
5. If the shared setting that brought you together disappeared, what would most likely happen?
We would probably lose touch because the setting is the main link between us.
We might exchange occasional messages but rarely make separate plans.
We would make some effort to stay connected, even if contact became less frequent.
Our relationship would continue because it has developed well beyond the original setting.
6. How balanced is the effort involved in maintaining this relationship?
Our contact mainly depends on circumstances rather than effort from either of us.
One person does noticeably more to sustain it.
The balance shifts, but both of us contribute over time.
Initiative, attention, and support feel consistently mutual.
7. When neither of you has an immediate reason to make contact, what usually happens?
We rarely contact each other without a practical reason or shared obligation.
One of us occasionally checks in, but it is usually the same person.
We both initiate sometimes, although the pattern is not especially regular.
We both naturally reach out and keep the connection going.
8. Looking at your connection as a whole, how much shared meaning has developed between you?
Most of our connection comes from being in the same place or knowing the same people.
We have some enjoyable memories, but they do not yet feel central to the relationship.
We have meaningful memories, familiar routines, or recurring jokes that strengthen the bond.
Our history and mutual understanding create a strong sense of having a life chapter together.
9. When something funny, exciting, or surprising happens to you, how often do you want to tell this person?
Rarely; they are not usually among the people who come to mind.
Sometimes, when the event connects to an interest or experience we share.
Often, especially when I know they would appreciate the story.
Very often; sharing ordinary and important moments with them feels natural.
10. You ask this person for a modest favor that would take some time but cause no major inconvenience. How are they likely to respond?
I would avoid asking because this is not the kind of support our relationship includes.
They might help if the timing were easy, but I would not count on it.
They would probably help or clearly explain if they could not.
They would make a sincere effort, just as I would for them.
11. When you share something personal with this person, how much do you edit yourself?
I keep the conversation impersonal because I do not see them as someone to confide in.
I share lighter personal details but avoid anything that could leave me exposed.
I can discuss many real concerns, though I hold back on a few sensitive subjects.
I can usually be candid without feeling that I must manage their impression of me.
12. You are having a difficult week and are not acting like your usual self. How would you expect them to respond?
They probably would not notice because we do not interact at that level.
They might notice but would likely wait for me to explain.
They would check in and give me room to choose how much to share.
They would recognize the change, respond with care, and stay present without pressuring me.
13. How confident are you that private information shared with this person will be handled respectfully?
I do not share information that I would mind other people hearing.
I trust them with ordinary details but not with anything especially sensitive.
I generally trust their discretion, with a few topics I would still protect.
Their past behavior gives me strong reason to trust their judgment and discretion.
14. After you make a mistake that affects them, what are you able to do?
I distance myself and wait for the situation to pass.
I acknowledge it briefly but avoid a deeper conversation.
I can apologize and discuss what happened, even if it feels uncomfortable.
I trust us to address the impact openly and work toward genuine repair.
15. A plan between you has to be canceled at the last minute. What typically follows?
The plan usually disappears unless I bring it up again.
There may be a vague suggestion to meet another time, with no clear follow-through.
One of us normally proposes a replacement date.
We both make sure the plan is rescheduled rather than letting it fade.