Am I Stubborn Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Someone completes a task for you using a method different from yours, and the result meets the requirements. How do you respond?
Accept the result and note that more than one method can work.
Accept it while asking about the reasoning behind their method.
Request a few changes so the process aligns more closely with how I would do it.
Ask for it to be redone using my method because consistency of approach matters to me.
2. When the facts around an issue are incomplete, how do you tend to hold your opinion?
As a tentative view that may change as more becomes known.
As my best current conclusion, with a few reservations.
As a position worth defending until someone clearly disproves it.
As a firm conclusion because choosing a side matters more than remaining uncertain.
3. You and a housemate want incompatible arrangements for a shared room. Neither preference is objectively better. What do you do?
Look for a split, rotation, or third option that respects both preferences.
Offer one concession if they are willing to make one too.
Argue strongly for my arrangement and compromise only if the conflict continues.
Refuse changes because giving way would establish the wrong precedent.
4. Someone whose judgment you respect offers an interpretation very different from yours. What is closest to your reaction?
I become curious about what they noticed that I may have missed.
I compare both interpretations while keeping my initial one in mind.
I assume our different experiences explain the disagreement, so neither view needs to shift.
I focus on making them understand why my interpretation is the right one.
5. A personal project has consumed weeks of effort, but the current approach is producing poor results. What are you inclined to do?
Review the goal and switch approaches if the evidence supports it.
Run one more limited test before deciding whether to change direction.
Continue longer because the work already invested deserves a chance to pay off.
Stick with the original approach because changing now would make the previous effort feel wasted.
6. How often do you genuinely change your mind after a thoughtful discussion?
Fairly often, when another perspective adds something important.
Sometimes, although I usually need time to process it privately.
Rarely, unless the case against my view is exceptionally strong.
Almost never; discussion usually reinforces the position I already hold.
7. A colleague presents credible evidence that conflicts with an opinion you have expressed confidently. What do you usually do first?
Reassess my opinion and acknowledge what the evidence may change.
Keep my current view for now while I examine the evidence more closely.
Look mainly for flaws in the evidence before considering any change.
Stay with my opinion because my own judgment still carries more weight for me.
8. A friend says, “I don’t feel heard when we disagree.” How would you most naturally respond?
Ask for an example and listen for what I could do differently.
Explain my intention, then ask what would help them feel heard.
Point out that disagreeing with them does not mean I failed to listen.
Insist that they are calling me a poor listener simply because I would not agree.
9. How do you react when a familiar routine no longer fits your schedule?
I redesign it around what matters most now.
I make small adjustments while preserving its basic structure.
I keep forcing the routine into the schedule until that becomes impractical.
I resist changing it because established routines should not bend whenever circumstances do.
10. An obstacle makes your original route toward a goal much harder, but several alternative routes remain. Which response fits you best?
I compare the alternatives and choose the route most likely to work now.
I give the original route one more serious attempt before switching.
I keep returning to the original route because it is the one I committed to.
I would rather delay the goal than pursue it in a way that differs from my original plan.
11. You arrive at a restaurant and discover it has unexpectedly closed. How do you handle the evening?
Quickly choose another nearby option and continue with the plan to enjoy the evening.
Check whether the closure is temporary before considering alternatives.
Spend considerable time trying to preserve the original choice, even if others are ready to move on.
Prefer to cancel because a substitute would not feel like the plan I agreed to.
12. During a disagreement, which goal usually matters most to you?
Understanding both positions well enough to find a workable response.
Expressing my position clearly while remaining open to some movement.
Making sure my position is not weakened just to end the tension.
Holding my ground until the other person recognizes that my position should prevail.
13. After an argument, you realize your tone was sharper than necessary, but you still believe your main point was right. What happens next?
I apologize for the tone and reopen the conversation more calmly.
I acknowledge the tone while clarifying that my main concern remains.
I wait for the other person to approach me because they also contributed to the argument.
I avoid apologizing because it could be taken as surrendering my position.
14. You have spent hours defending a position, then notice that a key assumption may be wrong. How do you respond?
Correct my position, even if doing so feels embarrassing.
Pause the debate and verify the assumption before saying more.
Adjust only the parts of my argument that absolutely require it.
Continue defending the main position because abandoning it would discount my earlier reasoning.
15. Your group prefers a different restaurant from the one you proposed, and both choices are workable. What are you most likely to do?
Go with the group’s choice and suggest mine for another occasion.
Briefly make my case, then accept whichever option the group chooses.
Keep negotiating for my choice because I believe it would suit everyone better.
Decline to join unless the group returns to my preferred option.