Am I Nice Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Someone makes a joke at your expense and says they were only teasing. How are you most likely to respond?
I laugh along because keeping things easy matters more than addressing it.
I become quieter or more distant and hope they notice.
I say that I did not enjoy the joke and ask them not to repeat it.
I tell them it bothered me, while emphasizing that I know they may not have intended harm.
2. You are about to enter an elevator when you notice someone several steps behind you. What are you most likely to do?
Enter and let the doors close because another elevator will arrive soon.
Pause only if the person signals that they want you to wait.
Hold the door if doing so will not noticeably delay anyone.
Hold the door and acknowledge the person so they know there is no need to rush.
3. How often do you remember small preferences that people mention, such as how they take a drink or what topics they avoid?
Rarely; I prefer people to remind me when a preference matters.
Sometimes, especially when the preference affects a shared plan.
Often, particularly with people I see regularly.
Very often; I naturally use those details to help people feel considered.
4. A friend tells you about a stressful day but does not ask for advice. What is your first response likely to be?
I suggest the most practical next step so the problem feels manageable.
I listen and ask whether they want comfort, ideas, or simply space to talk.
I share a similar experience to show that I understand.
I keep the conversation brief because they may prefer not to dwell on it.
5. Someone in your group becomes unusually quiet during an event. What do you tend to do?
I trust them to speak up if something is wrong.
I quietly check in once without pressuring them to explain.
I try to lift the mood by bringing them into a lighter conversation.
I wait for a clearer sign before getting involved.
6. A colleague repeatedly interrupts you. Which response best matches your likely approach?
I let it pass because correcting them could create awkwardness.
I speak more firmly or interrupt back so I can finish.
I finish the immediate exchange, then privately ask for more space to complete my thoughts.
I say, “I’d like to finish this point,” in the moment and leave it there.
7. A person you care about cancels plans because they feel emotionally drained. Which response is closest to yours?
I accept it but feel they should have honored the commitment.
I say it is fine and wait for them to suggest another time.
I reassure them and offer a lower-effort way to connect later.
I tell them I understand while also mentioning that I was disappointed.
8. How do you usually respond when someone shares good news about an achievement that does not interest you personally?
I offer a polite congratulations and move the conversation along.
I match their excitement and ask what the achievement means to them.
I acknowledge it warmly, even if I do not ask for details.
I respond briefly because enthusiasm feels insincere when I do not share the interest.
9. A cashier or server makes a minor mistake that costs you a few extra minutes. How do you usually react?
I state the correction briefly because efficiency matters more than conversation.
I point it out calmly and keep my tone neutral.
I express my frustration directly so the problem is taken seriously.
I explain the issue warmly and avoid treating the mistake as a personal failing.
10. You disagree with an opinion expressed at a casual gathering. How do you usually handle it?
I state my opposing view directly and let the discussion unfold.
I ask a question, share my view respectfully, and avoid making the disagreement personal.
I stay quiet to preserve the atmosphere.
I mention a different perspective but soften it if tension rises.
11. In a group conversation, how do you respond when one person has spoken very little?
I assume they prefer listening and leave them to choose whether to speak.
I make space if they begin talking but do not draw attention to them.
I look for a natural opening to ask what they think.
I occasionally pause to see whether they want to join in.
12. You realize that a promise you made is no longer realistic. What do you tend to do?
I keep trying quietly and mention the problem only if I definitely fail.
I notify the person once I know the original plan cannot happen.
I give early notice, take responsibility, and discuss a realistic alternative.
I explain the circumstances so they understand that the change was unavoidable.
13. When someone describes a problem that seems minor from your perspective, how do you respond?
I explain why the situation may not be as serious as it feels.
I focus on useful facts that might put the issue in perspective.
I acknowledge their reaction before offering another way to view it.
I stay curious about why it matters to them rather than using my reaction as the standard.
14. A friend asks for a favor you do not have the time or energy to complete. What are you most likely to say?
I agree and try to manage it, even if it leaves me resentful.
I give a vague excuse so they will not feel rejected.
I decline clearly and kindly without treating my limit as wrongdoing.
I explain that I cannot do it and apologize at length.
15. After using a shared kitchen or break area, what best describes your usual habit?
I clean my own items and also handle small shared messes when I notice them.
I make sure my own items are not in anyone’s way.
I tidy up when the area is clearly messy or someone asks.
I focus on what I used and expect each person to manage their own space.