Am I Losing My Best Friend Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. After a misunderstanding, which pattern most closely matches your friendship?
We reconnect but sometimes leave the underlying issue only partly discussed.
A long silence usually ends only after I smooth things over.
We revisit what happened and agree on how to move forward.
The issue tends to compound, or contact stops without an attempt at repair.
2. When you suggest a realistic way to reconnect, such as a short call or a planned meetup, what follows?
There is goodwill, but follow-through is inconsistent.
They engage in choosing an option that works for both of us.
My suggestions are rejected or ignored without another option being offered.
I keep proposing solutions, while they contribute little to making them happen.
3. If you gently mention that the friendship feels different, how does your friend respond?
They avoid the topic or deflect without addressing the concern.
They react with contempt, punishment, or blame that shuts the conversation down.
They listen, although they may be unsure what to do next.
They discuss it honestly and try to understand both perspectives.
4. When something important happens in your friend's life, how do you usually hear about it?
They still tell me directly, but often later than they once did.
I generally learn from someone else, social media, or not at all.
They naturally share important news with me.
They tell me mainly when I ask specific questions.
5. Over the past four weeks, who has usually started your conversations?
I have started most of them, though they usually respond.
We have initiated conversations about equally.
Nearly every conversation has depended on me reaching out.
I have initiated slightly more often than they have.
6. When one of you hurts the other, what usually happens?
We both acknowledge our part and make a reasonable repair.
Concerns are denied, mocked, or met with retaliation.
Apologies happen, but changed behavior can be slow or inconsistent.
One person usually has to initiate every repair and carry the conversation.
7. When you share something vulnerable, how does your friend typically respond?
They are kind but sometimes distracted or quick to move on.
They listen, show care, and make room for what I am saying.
I now hold back because past responses left me feeling exposed or dismissed.
They often minimize the issue, change the subject, or offer little engagement.
8. Compared with a few months ago, what is the emotional tone of your conversations?
They feel slightly less open, but warmth is still easy to find.
They are mostly surface-level, even when there is time to talk.
They feel about as open and warm as before, or more so.
They regularly feel guarded, cold, or tense.
9. What has happened to the small routines you shared, such as regular messages, calls, or meetups?
Most have faded, although my friend occasionally responds when I revive them.
They remain mostly intact, even if their timing has changed.
They happen less consistently, but both of us still contribute.
They have effectively ended despite my repeated attempts to continue them.
10. How reliably does your friend follow through on plans or promises to contact you?
They have missed several commitments without revisiting them.
They usually follow through or let me know promptly when plans change.
They are inconsistent, and I often need to remind them.
They occasionally forget, but they acknowledge it and reschedule.
11. When you are together in a group, how included do you feel by your friend?
Their attention is uneven, but they make some effort to bring me in.
I am frequently sidelined and have to work to join the interaction.
They acknowledge me, include me, and behave much as they do privately.
They repeatedly exclude me or treat me like a stranger.
12. Which statement best describes your trust in your friend with personal information?
A minor ambiguity occurred, but we discussed and resolved it.
I have good reason to believe they repeatedly or seriously shared things I expected them to protect.
I have no current reason to doubt their discretion.
At least one disclosure crossed my expectations, and repair remains incomplete.
13. When both of you are busy, how is the friendship typically maintained?
There may be a gap, but one of us usually reconnects before long.
We both adapt, such as choosing shorter calls or planning farther ahead.
My efforts to maintain contact are repeatedly left unanswered.
I do most of the checking in and arranging.
14. What is the current status of your most recent meaningful disagreement?
It was mostly resolved, though a little discomfort remains.
We understood each other and reached a workable resolution.
It remains unresolved and continues to affect our interactions.
It led to an ongoing rupture, with no mutual attempt to address it.
15. When your friend cannot accept an invitation, what usually happens next?
They often decline vaguely and leave any next step to me.
They usually accept or suggest a workable alternative.
They mention reconnecting later but do not always choose a time.
They repeatedly decline without suggesting another way to connect.