Am I Losing Feelings for My Boyfriend Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. If guilt, habit, and other people's expectations were removed, what would you most want right now?
To create significant distance or end the romantic relationship.
To keep choosing the relationship and deepen it over time.
To stay for now while honestly reassessing what I want.
To step back emotionally and avoid making further commitments.
2. How often do you spontaneously notice qualities in your boyfriend that feel romantically attractive to you?
Occasionally, although those moments feel less vivid or frequent.
Frequently enough that attraction still feels like an active part of the relationship.
Almost never; I mostly experience him without a romantic lens now.
Rarely, and I often have to deliberately recall what once attracted me.
3. When you think about the effort the relationship may require over the next few months, which statement fits best?
I want to contribute, provided the effort and responsibility are shared.
I feel conflicted: some effort seems worthwhile, but my motivation varies.
I would prefer to reduce my involvement rather than keep working on the relationship.
I can keep things going, but I have little enthusiasm for actively improving them.
4. If you met your boyfriend today with no shared history, which response seems most honest?
I would probably like him but be uncertain whether I wanted romance.
I would likely feel genuine curiosity and romantic attraction.
I might feel some attraction, though I would need time for it to develop.
I would be unlikely to pursue a romantic connection with him.
5. Your boyfriend suggests a one-on-one date similar to something you once enjoyed together. What reaction is closest to yours?
I like the idea and expect some romantic energy between us.
I would rather make it a group activity so it feels less romantic.
I feel mildly interested, depending on my mood and the plan.
I feel resistant because I no longer want a romantic atmosphere with him.
6. Imagine having an uninterrupted, honest conversation about what each of you has been feeling. What is your first reaction?
I would be interested in understanding him and being understood.
I would have little interest in either sharing my inner world or hearing his.
I would care about the conversation but feel somewhat guarded or hesitant.
I would mostly feel tired by the idea, even if the conversation might be useful.
7. After spending several days apart, how much do you miss his emotional presence—not just the routine of having him around?
Rarely; I notice the changed routine more than I miss connecting with him.
Often; I look forward to talking and reconnecting.
Hardly at all; the emotional distance often feels like a relief.
Sometimes, although the feeling is less reliable than it once was.
8. During an ordinary evening together, which emotional tone has become most typical lately?
There is warmth, but we do not connect as consistently as before.
I generally feel understood, interested, or at ease with him.
I often feel mentally elsewhere and wait for the time together to finish.
We get along, but the interaction often feels more cordial than close.
9. When he offers a form of physical closeness you normally enjoy and the timing feels comfortable, what tends to happen internally?
I usually want to reciprocate and feel present in the moment.
I often want the closeness to stop because it feels romantically wrong for me now.
I may enjoy it, but desire is less immediate or consistent than before.
I usually go along with it while feeling emotionally detached.
10. Your boyfriend brings up making plans several months ahead. What is your most typical internal response?
I can discuss plans, but I hesitate to count on the relationship that far ahead.
I usually enjoy imagining and planning a shared future with him.
I feel uncomfortable including him because I increasingly picture a separate future.
I am open to plans but prefer commitments that leave some flexibility.
11. A recurring disagreement resurfaces. Which response best reflects your current motivation?
I want to understand the pattern and work toward a workable change.
I would rather disengage because repairing the relationship no longer feels worthwhile.
I am willing to talk, but only when I have enough capacity and see a realistic path forward.
I mainly want the issue to disappear without putting much more into resolving it together.
12. Something meaningful happens during your day. How do you usually feel about telling your boyfriend?
I naturally want to tell him and hear his response.
I am more eager to tell someone else, though I may mention it to him later.
I want to tell him, but I sometimes wait until I have more energy or time.
I usually feel little desire to share it with him.
13. A free evening appears in a busy week. How inclined are you to use some of it for intentional time with your boyfriend?
I would consider it, but personal time or other plans would often come first.
I would usually want to make room for meaningful time together.
I would make time if convenient, though I would feel somewhat ambivalent.
I would actively avoid using the evening to invest in the relationship.
14. Your boyfriend starts describing something that has been worrying him. What response best matches your recent experience?
I listen, but remaining emotionally involved takes noticeable effort.
I feel drawn into what he is saying and want to understand.
I mostly listen from obligation rather than genuine interest.
I strongly wish the conversation would end or be handled by someone else.
15. When you reunite after time apart, how does affectionate contact compare with earlier in the relationship?
I am less spontaneous, but affection still feels welcome once we settle in.
A warm greeting or affectionate touch still comes naturally to me.
I usually prefer to keep the greeting practical and avoid affectionate contact.
I can participate, but it often feels more habitual than heartfelt.