Am I High Maintenance Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. A birthday plan misses several details you had hoped for. What response is closest to yours?
I appreciate the effort and discuss one important preference for a future celebration.
I explain that I feel disappointed without expecting anyone to repair the whole occasion.
I withdraw or repeatedly highlight what was missed so others understand my disappointment.
I use anger, humiliation, or guilt to make others redo the celebration or prove they care.
2. After a difficult day, you want support but the person you contact says they have little capacity. What do you do?
I respect their limit and ask when they might be available or contact someone else.
I ask whether they can offer a brief check-in before taking the space they need.
I continue seeking reassurance because my need feels more urgent than their limit.
I use guilt, threats, or intimidation to keep them engaged after they have asked to stop.
3. Someone close to you has not replied to a non-urgent message for several hours. What is your typical response?
I assume they may be occupied and wait for them to respond.
I send one follow-up if I need an answer, then give them time.
I make several attempts because the silence is difficult for me to tolerate.
I accuse, threaten, or punish them for not making themselves available.
4. You arrive at a restaurant and your reserved table is in a much noisier area than expected. What are you most likely to do?
Use the table if it is workable and focus on the meal.
Politely ask once whether a quieter table is available, then accept the answer.
Keep pressing for alternatives because the setting feels important to the occasion.
Direct my frustration at the staff or my companion until someone fixes the situation.
5. Another person is organizing plans that involve you. How much communication do you expect?
Confirmation of the main details, with room for them to manage the rest.
A few updates at agreed points, especially if an important detail changes.
Frequent updates, and I become noticeably upset when they are delayed.
Immediate reporting about changes, backed by anger or consequences if they do not comply.
6. You share an idea in a group conversation, but nobody responds directly. What are you likely to do?
I let it pass or revisit it later if it remains relevant.
I ask once whether anyone has thoughts about it.
I repeatedly redirect the conversation until the group acknowledges my idea.
I shame or verbally attack people for not giving me the attention I expected.
7. An unexpected obligation disrupts a routine that helps your day run smoothly. What happens next?
I use a substitute routine or accept that the day will look different.
I ask for a limited adjustment or specific support while recognizing others’ constraints.
I repeatedly push others to rearrange their plans so my usual routine can be restored.
I retaliate, intimidate, or assign blame when others cannot restore the routine for me.
8. You become overloaded with household or shared responsibilities. What do you typically seek from others?
I identify essentials and renegotiate the workload through a mutual agreement.
I request a temporary swap or a defined amount of extra help.
I regularly offload several responsibilities without discussing when or how the balance will be restored.
I demand that others absorb the work and use anger, guilt, or threats if they resist.
9. When choosing a hotel for a shared trip, which approach sounds most like yours?
I focus on basic comfort, location, and the budget we agreed on.
I suggest a short list of preferred features while staying open to trade-offs.
I keep searching for a specific combination even if it takes substantially more group time.
I pressure others to accept extra cost or inconvenience and blame them if they resist.
10. On a shared trip, how do you usually approach planning and logistics?
I manage my needs and take an agreed share of the group tasks.
I ask for limited help with details that are genuinely difficult for me.
I expect companions to manage several responsibilities around my preferences without a clear reciprocal plan.
I demand that others handle the work and berate or threaten them when something falls short.
11. Your group chooses a restaurant that was not your first choice but has food you can eat. How do you respond?
I choose a workable dish and join the group.
I mention one alternative but accept the group’s decision.
I keep lobbying for a change and make my displeasure central to the outing.
I insult the choice or use anger and social pressure until the group gives in.
12. A reservation is unexpectedly moved thirty minutes later. What are you most likely to do?
Adjust the surrounding plan and use the extra time another way.
Ask once about alternatives, then choose the most workable option.
Expect my companions to rearrange several plans so my preferred schedule is preserved.
Blame or intimidate staff or companions until they comply with my demands.
13. A newly purchased item has a tiny cosmetic flaw that does not affect its function. What do you do?
I keep it if the flaw will not meaningfully affect my use of it.
I request a standard exchange and remain courteous if the process takes time.
I pursue repeated exchanges or exceptions until the item meets my exact expectations.
I insult, threaten, or intimidate staff or someone helping me when the outcome is not immediate.
14. A disagreement cannot be resolved before bedtime, and the other person asks to pause. Which response fits you best?
I agree on a time to continue and allow the pause.
I request a brief reassurance or practical confirmation before separating.
I keep pressing for discussion even though the other person has clearly asked to stop.
I threaten consequences, block their movement, or prevent them from disengaging.
15. Your preparation routine makes you late for a casual outing. How do you usually handle it?
I shorten the routine or arrange my timing so others are not repeatedly kept waiting.
I ask for reasonable notice and tell people promptly if I am running behind.
I often expect the group to wait because completing my routine feels necessary.
I become angry or accusatory when others will not delay their plans for me.