Am I Being Groomed Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Which statement best describes sexual images or recordings in this situation?
They have not sent unwanted sexual content or asked me to create sexual images.
They sent or requested sexualized content once, then stopped after I expressed a boundary.
They repeatedly sent sexual content or asked for images after I hesitated, refused, or seemed uncomfortable.
They forced, tricked, threatened, or blackmailed me into creating, viewing, sharing, or allowing sexual images or recordings.
2. What has happened to your connections with friends, family, caregivers, or other trusted people?
They have not tried to weaken or control my supportive relationships.
They criticized a trusted person or acted jealous once, but did not push me to reduce contact.
They repeatedly encouraged secrecy, distrust, or distance from people who might question the relationship.
They threatened, blackmailed, punished, or trapped me to stop me from contacting supportive people.
3. How has this person handled physical or sexual touching?
They have not initiated unwanted, sexualized, or boundary-testing touch.
They tried touch that felt like a boundary test, but stopped when I moved away or objected.
They repeated or escalated touching despite my refusal, freezing, discomfort, or lack of participation.
They forced sexual contact, restrained me, injured me, or continued through threats or clear non-consent.
4. When you set an emotional, social, or communication boundary, what tends to happen?
They accept the boundary without using affection, guilt, or access as leverage.
They reacted with disappointment or extra persuasion once, but then respected the boundary.
They repeatedly use guilt, intense affection, silent treatment, humiliation, or manufactured crises to wear down my boundary.
They threaten self-harm, exposure, abandonment, retaliation, or serious consequences to force my compliance.
5. What has happened around keeping sexual or romantic interactions secret?
There has been no request to hide sexual or romantic behavior between us.
They hinted that privacy would make our connection more special, but did not continue after I objected.
They repeatedly asked me to hide messages, meetings, touching, or the nature of our relationship.
They used threats, blackmail, punishment, or promised rewards to make me keep sexual or romantic behavior secret.
6. Has this person tried to get you alone or control your way home?
They have not pressured me into isolation or interfered with my transport.
They encouraged a private location or offered a ride that felt uncomfortable, but accepted my refusal.
They repeatedly maneuvered me away from others or made it difficult for me to leave independently.
They took or kept me somewhere against my will, deliberately stranded me in danger, or threatened me over leaving.
7. When you seek help or involve another person, how does this person respond?
They do not interfere with my access to help, transport, medical care, or other people.
They became upset about outside involvement once, but did not obstruct it.
They repeatedly monitor, interrupt, or sabotage my attempts to get help or contact someone.
They physically prevented help, threatened retaliation, or injured me or another person because I sought support.
8. What has happened involving alcohol, drugs, or other intoxicating substances?
They have not offered, supplied, or used intoxicants to affect my choices.
They offered an intoxicant once without pressure, and accepted my refusal.
They repeatedly pressured me to use intoxicants or encouraged enough use to weaken my judgment or resistance.
They secretly administered or forced a substance, interfered with my medication, or exploited me while I was incapacitated.
9. How has this person introduced sexual topics, jokes, or material into your interactions?
They have not introduced sexual material or pushed conversation in that direction.
They tested the topic in a way that felt uncomfortable, but stopped when I set a limit.
They repeatedly steered things toward sexual material despite my discomfort or attempts to change the subject.
They forced, threatened, or pressured me to discuss, watch, or participate in sexual material.
10. What role have gifts, favors, opportunities, or money played in sexual or romantic expectations?
They have not connected gifts, favors, money, or opportunities with sexual or romantic access.
A gift or favor carried a sexual or romantic undertone, but no demand followed when I set a boundary.
They made me feel that affection, images, touching, or access to me was expected in return for what they provided.
They explicitly conditioned essential help or valuable benefits on sexual compliance, or threatened consequences if I refused.
11. If this person controls or provides food, shelter, money, healthcare, transport, or another essential need, how is that power used?
They do not control an essential need, or they provide available support without demanding personal compliance.
They implied that support should earn extra closeness or loyalty, but did not withhold it when I refused.
They repeatedly made essential support unpredictable or conditional in order to influence my behavior.
They deliberately withheld an available essential need, abandoned me in danger, or denied urgent care to force compliance or cause harm.
12. What happens when you ask for physical space or try to leave?
They let me move away or leave without following, blocking, or punishing me.
They protested or followed briefly once, but stopped when I clearly asked for space.
They repeatedly followed me, blocked ordinary exits, took my belongings, or interfered with my ability to leave.
They restrained, confined, chased, injured, or threatened me or someone else to prevent me from leaving.
13. How has this person used private information, vulnerabilities, or secrets you shared?
They have not pressured me for sensitive information or used it to influence my choices.
They asked for unusually personal information, but accepted limits on what I shared.
They repeatedly gathered or referenced my secrets, fears, trauma, or insecurities to gain influence over me.
They used or threatened to use private information, images, rumors, or disclosures to blackmail, exploit, or silence me.
14. How has this person used attention, praise, gifts, or a sense that you are uniquely special?
Their attention has not been used to create obligation, exclusivity, or pressure.
Their attention became unusually intense or personal, but they accepted my efforts to slow things down.
They repeatedly used praise, gifts, status, or special treatment to make me feel indebted or more loyal to them than to others.
They made needed support or affection conditional on compliance, or threatened to withdraw it if I resisted.
15. How has physical intimidation appeared in this situation?
They have not used physical intimidation, threats, or destructive displays toward me.
They invaded my space or made an angry physical display once, without a direct threat, then stopped.
They repeatedly cornered me, damaged property, drove dangerously, or used physical displays to frighten me into compliance.
They used or threatened physical force, a weapon, injury, or violence against me, themselves, another person, or an animal.