Am I Being Ghosted Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Before contact changed, how established was your connection?
It was a one-time or very brief exchange that had largely completed its purpose.
We communicated occasionally without assuming it would continue regularly.
We had repeated contact, although we had not defined what to expect from it.
We had explicitly discussed continuing the relationship, friendship, or regular contact.
2. What response, if any, have you received to your latest direct message?
They replied to what I said or asked.
They acknowledged it briefly, such as with a reaction, but did not really answer.
They have not answered an open question or clear invitation.
They have left multiple reasonable, spaced-out attempts unanswered as expected moments for contact passed.
3. How often do you check your phone, messages, or their activity because you are waiting for a response?
Rarely; I notice the silence mainly when something reminds me of it.
Once or twice at expected moments, then I return to other things.
Several times a day, even when I do not expect anything new.
Repeatedly enough that checking interrupts sleep, work, study, or time with others.
4. What communication routine existed between you beforehand?
There was no recurring pattern of contact.
We checked in from time to time, with long gaps being normal.
We communicated regularly enough that this gap stands out.
We had a dependable, mutual routine that stopped without warning.
5. Was any reason or boundary communicated when the distance began?
They gave a clear ending or boundary that explained the change.
They asked for time or space, though the duration was unclear.
They hinted at pulling back but left the meaning ambiguous.
They stopped an established connection without stating a reason, ending, or boundary.
6. When you need to focus on an ordinary task, how much does this situation intrude?
It stays mostly in the background.
It distracts me briefly, but I can redirect my attention.
I replay possibilities often and have trouble staying focused.
It repeatedly pulls me away from tasks or plans I want to complete.
7. If you had discussed meeting or doing something together, what happened?
There was no pending plan, or the plan ended with a clear decision.
A general idea was mentioned, but neither of us made a firm arrangement.
We agreed on a plan, but they stopped responding before details were confirmed.
They missed or abandoned a confirmed arrangement without contacting me or explaining afterward.
8. What happens when you try to make sense of the silence?
I can hold several possible explanations without needing to settle on one.
I wonder about it occasionally but do not spend long analyzing it.
I repeatedly review messages or interactions for clues.
I feel consumed by finding an explanation or proving what the silence means.
9. How did their communication change before the silence or distance?
They explained that they would be unavailable or less responsive.
Contact gradually became less frequent while they still checked in occasionally.
Their messages became noticeably shorter or less engaged before stopping.
They seemed normally engaged or warm and then disappeared without explanation.
10. How much does receiving an explanation feel necessary for you to move forward?
I can move forward even if I never receive a clear explanation.
I would value an explanation, but I can make plans without it.
The lack of closure is making some emotional or relationship decisions harder.
I feel unable to regain my footing or make important decisions until they respond.
11. What do you know about their availability while they have not been replying to you?
They said they would be offline, busy, or unable to communicate.
I have no reliable information about whether they are available.
They appear active in other places, although I do not know whether they have seen my message.
They are directly interacting with others in the same spaces while repeatedly bypassing my direct communication.
12. Compared with this person’s usual response pattern, what has happened recently?
Their timing is mostly unchanged, or they returned after a familiar delay.
Replies are taking somewhat longer, but this has happened before.
The delay is far outside their usual pattern, with more than one message unanswered.
Communication stopped abruptly, and messages that would normally receive a reply remain unanswered.
13. What had this person said about future contact?
They clearly said they were ending contact or would not be available.
They mentioned being busy or needing space, without saying when they might return.
They spoke generally about talking or meeting again.
They made a specific commitment to call, reply, meet, or continue the conversation.
14. How has the uncertainty influenced your attempts to contact them?
I feel little need to send anything beyond what I have already said.
I have considered or drafted one follow-up while giving the situation time.
I have sent additional follow-ups because waiting feels difficult.
I feel driven to try multiple channels or involve other people to get a response.
15. How did your last active conversation end?
We exchanged a clear goodbye or mutually ended the topic.
It reached a natural lull with nothing pressing left to answer.
It ended mid-flow, although my last message did not clearly require a response.
I asked a direct question or raised a plan that plainly called for a response.