What Are My Pronouns Quiz
Questions: 20 · 10 minutes
1. An online form allows only one pronoun entry, but you have been considering a mixed set. What reaction best reflects you?
No real frustration, because one pronoun set is all I want to communicate.
Mild inconvenience; listing one set would still cover what matters most.
Noticeable frustration because part of my preferred combination would be missing.
Strong frustration because no single set would represent how I want to be addressed.
2. How does using different acceptable pronouns across family, friends, and public spaces sound to you?
It sounds potentially expressive, and I would like room to explore it.
It sounds natural because more than one pronoun can genuinely fit me.
It sounds workable, though mostly as a response to other people’s habits.
It sounds less appealing than finding one set I want everywhere.
3. Relatives ask what pronoun they should use for you from now on. How appealing is it to answer he/him?
Slightly appealing as an available answer, but not one I strongly prefer.
Very appealing; saying he/him would express how I want to be known.
Not appealing; I would direct them toward a different option.
Fairly appealing, and I would like to test it in family conversations.
4. At an inclusive event, your badge can display any pronouns. How would you approach a neopronoun set you have considered?
Display it proudly because I want people to practice using it for me.
Display it as an experiment, perhaps alongside another accepted set.
Keep it in mind but choose a more familiar set for practical ease.
Choose another option because neopronouns do not feel like mine.
5. You can add he/him to a name badge at a relaxed community event. Which choice sounds most like you?
I would add it confidently so people know what to use.
I would skip it because I would rather not be called he/him.
I might add it as a low-pressure experiment.
I would add it only for convenience if an entry seemed expected.
6. Imagine reading a short story whose main character is closely based on you and is called “he.” What would you notice?
The pronoun would distance the character from my sense of self.
It would seem plausible, though not particularly resonant.
It would make the character feel a little more like the version of me I want seen.
It would make the character feel unmistakably and satisfyingly like me.
7. At a new workshop, the facilitator privately asks which pronouns to put beside your name. How would choosing she/her feel?
I would choose something else because she/her feels unlike me.
I could accept she/her for the day, but it would feel mostly practical.
I would be interested to see how she/her feels during the workshop.
I would choose she/her with a clear sense that it represents me.
8. In a team chat, someone writes, “They’ll send the details later,” referring to you. What is your immediate response?
I appreciate the neutrality and feel accurately represented.
I can work with it, but it feels more generic than personal.
I wish the writer had chosen a different pronoun for me.
I feel a promising sense that they/them might suit me.
9. A stranger makes a gendered assumption about you. How does the idea of asking them to use they/them compare?
It feels like the clearest and most satisfying correction.
It seems worth considering, even if I am not ready to insist on it.
It would solve the immediate assumption, but it is not my preferred wording.
It would replace one unwanted pronoun with another I do not want.
10. A trusted friend offers to try a neopronoun set you selected, such as xe/xem or ze/hir. What would you want?
I would prefer that my friend use a non-neopronoun option for me.
I would permit the trial mainly to learn whether I react at all.
I would welcome the experiment and feel hopeful about hearing the set.
I would be excited because the chosen set already feels personally meaningful.
11. You are revising a profile that friends and new acquaintances will see. What would you do with she/her?
Leave it off because I do not want people using she/her for me.
Consider listing it only if the profile requires a pronoun entry.
Try listing she/her temporarily and pay attention to how it feels.
List she/her because I actively want readers to use it for me.
12. Picture people consistently using they/them for you a year from now. Which future feels closest?
Comfortable enough, although I would not feel strongly attached to it.
Misaligned with how I hope people will refer to me.
Increasingly comfortable and potentially right for me.
Deeply natural, as though others are finally using language that fits.
13. Someone uses another pronoun for you, and you have an easy opportunity to request she/her instead. What would you most likely feel?
Relieved to have the chance to ask for she/her.
Tempted to request she/her, although I might still hesitate.
Indifferent; she/her would be acceptable but not especially preferable.
I would not request she/her because that is not the direction I want.
14. If you placed they/them in your email signature for one month, what would the experiment feel like?
Like a poor match that could encourage language I do not want.
Like a neutral administrative choice I could tolerate.
Like a useful test I would be genuinely curious to try.
Like a welcome way to show others how I want to be addressed.
15. Using a neopronoun may require occasionally explaining its forms to other people. How does that affect its appeal to you?
The explanation feels worthwhile because the pronoun itself could fit me strongly.
I would try it with receptive people before deciding whether the effort feels worthwhile.
I might accept it in limited spaces, but the practical effort outweighs most of its appeal.
Even without any need to explain it, I would still prefer another pronoun type.
16. A friend refers to you as “she” while telling a warm story about you. What reaction comes closest?
The pronoun would stand out pleasantly and make the story feel more personally affirming.
I would notice a small spark of comfort or curiosity.
I would focus on the story; “she” would feel usable but not meaningful.
I would wish my friend had used a different pronoun.
17. You read a sentence about yourself using a neopronoun set you chose. Which response is nearest?
The unfamiliarity is present, but so is a meaningful sense of possibility.
The sentence feels especially precise or affirming once I read it through.
The wording feels usable as an experiment but does not stir much recognition.
The wording does not represent how I want to be referred to.
18. During introductions, you could offer a combination such as she/they or he/they instead of one set. What draws you most?
I would rather give one different set that clearly fits me.
I could list two sets for flexibility, although one would still feel more genuine.
I like the possibility that either listed set could describe me.
Using more than one set feels like the most accurate way to express my range.
19. A close friend introduces you to a new group by saying, “He’s the person I told you about.” How does that land?
It feels usable, but I attach little personal significance to it.
It feels distinctly wrong for how I want others to describe me.
It gives me a noticeable sense of being recognized.
It catches my interest, and I would like to hear it used again.
20. Two friends naturally alternate between your listed pronoun sets while talking about you. How would that variation feel?
Rich and affirming; hearing the variation would represent me well.
Interesting and mostly comfortable, even if I still have preferences.
Manageable, but I would quietly favor one set most of the time.
Distracting or misaligned; I would want them to settle on another single set.