Was I Sexually Coerced Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. How did the other person respond emotionally when you did not want sexual activity?
They repeatedly used guilt, accusations, or sulking to wear down my refusal.
They accepted my decision without making me responsible for their feelings.
They showed disappointment but managed it without continuing to pressure me.
They threatened humiliation, exposure, retaliation, or harm unless I complied.
2. How well were you able to make and communicate decisions at the time?
I had used alcohol or another substance but remained able to understand, decide, and communicate; there was no pressure.
I was clearly impaired or confused, and they kept pushing despite signs that I was not freely choosing.
I was alert, understood what was happening, and felt able to make choices without pressure.
I was asleep, unconscious, severely intoxicated, or otherwise unable to consent, and sexual contact occurred.
3. If a specific sexual act, contraceptive condition, or safer-sex boundary was discussed, how was it handled?
They assumed something was acceptable, but checked when I hesitated and stopped when it was not.
They respected the agreed limits and asked before making changes.
They kept lobbying for a change after I showed reluctance.
They knowingly violated the agreed boundary or continued an act I had not agreed to.
4. When you expressed hesitation, said no, or asked to stop, what happened?
They paused, checked what I wanted, and accepted my answer without pressure.
They seemed disappointed or asked once for clarification, then stopped.
They repeatedly persuaded, bargained, or made me defend my boundary.
They continued sexual contact after I refused, withdrew agreement, or asked them to stop.
5. What happened when you considered seeking medical care, emotional support, or advice from someone else?
I remained free to seek available support, and they did not interfere.
They asked me to keep the matter private but did not obstruct me when I sought support.
They repeatedly discouraged contact with others or tried to make me doubt whether I deserved help.
They deliberately prevented available medical care, confined or monitored me, or threatened consequences for seeking help.
6. During the encounter, how free did you feel to move away or leave?
They stayed very close or crowded my space, but moved when I asked.
They positioned themselves near the exit in an intimidating way, although they moved when directly told to.
I could move, pause, or leave without physical interference.
They restrained, confined, carried, pinned, or physically prevented me from leaving.
7. When you later raised discomfort or questioned what happened, how did they respond?
They initially minimized my concern but later listened without pressuring me to change my account.
They listened, respected my perspective, and did not retaliate or control whom I contacted.
They repeatedly blamed me, denied my stated boundary, or pressured me to keep quiet.
They threatened retaliation, isolated me, destroyed evidence, or blocked access to support or care.
8. How did they respond to signs that touch or movement was painful or physically uncomfortable?
They noticed my discomfort only after a delay, then adjusted or stopped when I explained.
They checked in and changed or stopped immediately when I showed discomfort.
They kept being rough after clear signs of discomfort, though they did not restrain or injure me.
They deliberately hurt me, caused injury, or continued after I clearly said the contact was painful or must stop.
9. How was your body physically directed during the encounter?
They restrained, overpowered, or forcibly moved my body to make sexual activity happen.
They tried more than once to reposition me after I moved away, but did not restrain me.
They guided me once without checking first, then stopped when I moved away or objected.
Movement was mutually chosen, and they checked before physically directing me.
10. If you tried to create distance after the encounter began, what happened?
They argued or delayed briefly, but did not physically interfere when I left.
They used an intimidating stance to discourage me, but moved when I directly insisted on leaving.
They let me step away or leave without interference.
They locked me in, restrained me, took essential items to confine me, or threatened harm if I left.
11. Which description best matches how you came to participate in the sexual activity?
I was asleep, unconscious, incapacitated, or otherwise unable to choose when it began or continued.
I freely chose to participate and felt able to change my mind.
I went along partly to avoid awkwardness or disappointing them, although they did not keep pressing me.
I eventually gave in after repeated requests, arguments, or pressure.
12. Did a difference in authority, dependence, status, or resources affect your ability to refuse?
They explicitly threatened consequences or exploited my dependence or vulnerability to obtain sexual activity.
There was an imbalance that made refusal feel awkward, but they did not use it to pressure me.
I did not depend on their authority, resources, or approval in a way that affected my choice.
They repeatedly emphasized their status, expectations, or approval in a way that made refusing difficult.
13. What role did physical intimidation play?
There was no intimidating physical behavior affecting my choices.
Their tone, size, or proximity made me tense, although they did not use it to keep me there.
Repeated looming, aggressive gestures, or striking nearby objects made resistance feel difficult.
They used a weapon, inflicted injury, or threatened physical harm to me or someone else.
14. How did age, experience, popularity, authority, or social standing affect the interaction?
A difference existed and made me somewhat hesitant, but they did not use it to influence my choice.
We interacted on equal terms, and I did not feel that their standing controlled my decision.
They repeatedly used their approval, status, or greater experience to steer me toward compliance.
An adult, authority figure, or person controlling essential support exploited my age, dependence, or vulnerability for sexual access.
15. Was affection, commitment, housing, money, or another important need made conditional on sexual activity?
Their warmth briefly changed after I declined, but they did not connect support or the relationship to sex.
They repeatedly withdrew affection or invoked what I owed them to wear me down.
They explicitly threatened loss of housing, money, safety, employment, care, or the relationship, or exploited my dependence to obtain sex.
They did not make support, affection, or commitment conditional on sexual activity.