Relationship OCD Test
Questions: 75 · 10 minutes
1. I look for signs (texts, tone, behaviors) to confirm my partner really loves me.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
2. I keep mental lists of my partner’s pros and cons to decide if I should stay.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
3. I avoid making relationship decisions (e.g., moving in, commitment) until I feel completely certain.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
4. I look for “signs” (thoughts, sensations, coincidences) that indicate I should stay or leave.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
5. I ask my partner to repeat affirmations (e.g., “Do you love me?” “Are you sure?”) until it feels “right.”
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
6. I avoid meeting or spending time with my partner’s friends or family because it triggers relationship doubts or comparisons.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
7. Intrusive doubts about my relationship make it hard to focus on work, school, or daily tasks.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
8. I repeatedly analyze whether my partner has flaws that mean we shouldn’t be together.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
9. I feel less emotionally close to my partner because of these thoughts and behaviors.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
10. When I get doubts about my relationship, I ask my partner to reassure me that everything is okay.
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
11. These thoughts and behaviors make it harder for me to trust my own relationship decisions.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
12. My worries cause me to analyze my feelings so much that it reduces enjoyment in the relationship.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
13. I “scan” for red flags in my partner’s behavior to settle my uncertainty.
Never
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Often
Almost always
14. I check for certainty by imagining being with someone else and comparing how it feels.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
15. I check my partner’s tone, facial expression, or texting style for evidence something is wrong.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
16. I mentally review conversations or moments to check if they prove we are “right” for each other.
Never
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Often
Almost always
17. I compare my relationship to other couples to see if mine measures up.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
18. I mentally review conversations or moments with my partner to look for “proof” that the relationship is right or wrong.
Never
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Often
Almost always
19. I confess doubts to my partner to relieve anxiety (even when it causes conflict or distress).
Never
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Often
Almost always
20. I avoid certain conversations or situations with my partner because they trigger doubts or anxiety.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
21. Small issues (e.g., a minor disagreement) trigger a spiral of doubts about the whole relationship.
Never
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Almost always
22. My partner and I argue more because of my doubts, checking, or need for certainty.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
23. My anxiety about the relationship leads me to avoid planning for the future with my partner.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
24. I repeatedly ask myself “Is this a sign?” about small events (tone, timing, a feeling shift) to decide what to do.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
25. My relationship-related thoughts interfere with my sleep (trouble falling asleep, waking up worried, or ruminating).
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
26. I repeatedly check my feelings (e.g., “Do I feel enough love?”) to be sure I’m with the right person.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
27. I seek reassurance (from my partner or others) often enough that it creates tension or frustration.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
28. I repeatedly question whether I’m with the “right” person, even when things are going well.
Never
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Almost always
29. I feel compelled to “figure out” the relationship until I get complete certainty.
Never
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Almost always
30. I avoid intimacy or affection because it triggers doubts or pressure to feel certain.
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
31. I test myself by imagining breaking up to see if I feel relief or panic.
Never
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Almost always
32. Because of these doubts, I have trouble being present and enjoying time with my partner.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
33. I seek reassurance from friends/family about whether my partner is “good enough” for me (or I am for them).
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
34. I repeatedly check my feelings (e.g., attraction, excitement) to see if they feel “right.”
Never
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Often
Almost always
35. I repeatedly check whether my feelings match how I think I “should” feel in a good relationship.
Never
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Almost always
36. I search online for relationship advice to neutralize my doubts (e.g., “Do I love them?” “Is this normal?”).
Never
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Almost always
37. My doubts make physical intimacy (e.g., affection, sex) more difficult or less satisfying.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
38. I repeatedly seek reassurance from my partner after conflicts to make sure we’re not “doomed.”
Never
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Often
Almost always
39. I ask friends, family, or online sources for reassurance or opinions about my relationship.
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
40. I repeatedly analyze whether my own flaws mean my partner should not be with me.
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
41. I search online (articles, forums, quizzes) to confirm what my doubts mean about my relationship.
Never
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Often
Almost always
42. I spend so much time thinking about the relationship that it crowds out hobbies, friends, or self-care.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
43. My relationship-related worries significantly increase my overall anxiety or stress.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
44. I monitor my physical reactions (e.g., butterflies, attraction, arousal) to decide if I truly want to be with my partner.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
45. I look for certainty by checking compatibility (e.g., personality tests, astrology, “love languages”) again and again.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
46. I feel compelled to compare my relationship to others, and it leaves me distressed or dissatisfied.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
47. I replay past relationship events to decide whether the relationship is “good enough.”
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
48. I get repeated intrusive doubts about whether I truly love my partner.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
49. I change my behavior around my partner (e.g., act distant, test them, or withdraw) because of my doubts.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
50. I look for absolute guarantees about the relationship’s future before I can relax.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
51. My fears about the relationship lead me to repeatedly check my feelings (e.g., ""Do I really love them?"") and it disrupts my day.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
52. I repeatedly try to “solve” my doubts by overthinking what love “should” feel like.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
53. I repeatedly check whether I find other people more attractive than my partner as a way to evaluate the relationship.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
54. I test the relationship by pulling away, withholding affection, or acting distant to see how I feel (or how my partner reacts).
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
55. I ask for reassurance about whether my relationship is “normal” (e.g., arguing, boredom, doubts).
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
56. I feel compelled to analyze whether my partner has the “right” qualities (looks, personality, values).
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
57. I seek reassurance from my partner about their love, commitment, or attraction to me.
Never
Sometimes
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Almost always
58. I revisit old photos, messages, or mementos to reassure myself that the relationship is real or meaningful.
Never
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Almost always
59. I repeatedly imagine life with someone else to see if that feels “more right” than my current relationship.
Never
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Almost always
60. I ask my partner questions to “test” their love or commitment (even when I already know the answer).
Never
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Almost always
61. My relationship worries make me less productive or motivated in other areas of my life.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
62. I get repeated intrusive doubts about whether my partner truly loves me.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
63. I repeatedly ask my partner questions to reduce my doubts (even after getting an answer).
Never
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Almost always
64. I monitor my level of attraction to my partner during everyday interactions.
Never
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Often
Almost always
65. My doubts lead me to delay or avoid making relationship decisions (e.g., commitments, plans, next steps).
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
66. When I feel uncertain, I do mental rituals (e.g., repeating phrases, reviewing memories) to reduce anxiety.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
67. I avoid situations that could trigger comparison or doubts (e.g., weddings, romantic media, social media).
Never
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Almost always
68. I mentally list pros and cons of the relationship again and again to feel certain.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
69. When I feel uncertain, I confess my doubts to my partner to get relief or clarity.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
70. I focus on my partner’s flaws and can’t let them go, even when I try.
Never
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Almost always
71. I compare my relationship to other couples (in real life or online) to see if mine measures up.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
72. I avoid making commitments (e.g., moving in, future plans) because of persistent doubts.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
73. My partner notices that I seem preoccupied or “checked out” because of my relationship doubts.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
74. I replay memories from earlier in the relationship to check whether I “felt enough” at the start.
Never
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Almost always
75. I ask others whether they think my partner is attractive/smart/successful enough for me (or vice versa).
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always