Limerence Test

1. I feel like myself around them, rather than performing to keep their interest.

2. I replay past conversations with them in my head, looking for hidden meaning.

3. I can accept uncertainty about the future without needing an immediate guarantee.

4. When something feels off between us, I can address it calmly rather than panicking.

5. Thinking about this person interferes with my concentration at work, school, or daily tasks.

6. If I think I might lose access to them, it feels urgent to do something immediately.

7. When I’m not with this person, I feel pulled to think about them repeatedly.

8. I lose track of time because I’m daydreaming or imagining scenarios with this person.

9. I find myself rereading old messages or replaying conversations with this person in my head.

10. I get a strong emotional “high” when I think they might like me back.

11. I feel emotionally safe enough to be honest, even if it might lead to disagreement.

12. I get stuck analyzing their tone, timing, or wording long after an interaction.

13. My thoughts about this person disrupt my productivity more than I think is reasonable.

14. I can keep perspective: this person is important, but not the center of my entire emotional world.

15. I have intrusive images or mental “snapshots” of this person during the day.

16. If I go a day without thinking about this person much, it feels unusual for me.

17. If I try to distract myself from thinking about this person, the thoughts come back quickly.

18. I cancel or postpone tasks because I’m caught up thinking about this person or monitoring for contact.

19. I check my phone more than I want to because I’m thinking about hearing from this person.

20. My feelings for this person stay fairly steady from day to day.

21. I find it hard to stop myself from reaching out, even when I planned not to.

22. I wake up or sleep lightly because my mind is preoccupied with this person.

23. I don’t need constant reassurance to feel secure about this connection.

24. I find myself imagining future scenarios with them repeatedly throughout the day.

25. I have difficulty shifting my attention away from this person once I start thinking about them.

26. I can tolerate not hearing from them for a while without spiraling.

27. Even during enjoyable activities, I can’t fully relax because I’m thinking about this person.

28. I find myself searching for hidden meaning in ordinary interactions with this person.

29. If they need space, I can respect it without feeling rejected or abandoned.

30. I compare other potential partners to them and they usually come up short.

31. I can maintain my boundaries (time, values, self-respect) even when I’m very attracted to them.

32. Thoughts about this person pop into my mind even when I try to focus on something else.

33. I can communicate my needs directly instead of relying on hints or tests.

34. My mood can swing noticeably based on small interactions with them (or lack of them).

35. I try to mentally rehearse what I’ll say to this person, over and over.

36. When I receive attention from them, I feel a rush that is hard to match with other things.

37. I go out of my way to create chances to see or interact with them.

38. I don’t feel a strong urge to monitor their social media or activity to feel okay.

39. My mood does not depend heavily on whether they seem responsive or affectionate.

40. I can take a step back and evaluate the relationship based on patterns, not just intense moments.

41. I can enjoy my life even when I’m unsure where I stand with them.

42. I get a strong emotional “low” when I think they might not feel the same.

43. I have difficulty enjoying activities because my attention keeps returning to them.

44. I can acknowledge incompatibilities without trying to explain them away.

45. If plans change or they’re busy, I can assume neutral reasons rather than worst-case motives.

46. I can accept that they may not always meet my hopes, without feeling devastated.

47. Small signs (a short text, a delayed reply) don’t drastically change how I feel about the relationship.

48. I repeatedly review what I did or said around this person to judge how it came across.

49. I can hold realistic expectations of what this connection can and cannot provide.

50. I feel mentally restless until I check for updates about this person (texts, social media, mutual friends).

51. I generally feel secure even when I don’t have immediate proof of how they feel.

52. I’m able to focus on work, school, or daily responsibilities even when things feel uncertain with them.

53. I see both this person’s strengths and flaws clearly.

54. I pay close attention to their tone, timing, or wording to gauge how they feel about me.

55. My view of them doesn’t swing between “perfect” and “terrible.”

56. I find it hard to be fully present with other people because my mind drifts to this person.

57. When I feel anxious about them, I can self-soothe rather than urgently seeking contact or confirmation.

58. My emotional response to them feels proportionate to what is actually happening between us.

59. Small cues (e.g., likes, views, short replies) trigger a flood of thoughts about this person.

60. When they seem distant, I feel anxious or unsettled until I get reassurance.

61. Thoughts about this person pop into my mind even when I’m trying to focus on something else.

62. I feel a strong urge to check for messages, likes, or signs of attention from them.

63. My mind returns to this person even when I don’t want it to.

64. I notice myself steering my routines (routes, schedules, online time) around chances of seeing or hearing from this person.

65. My daily plans or priorities often shift depending on whether I might hear from them.

66. When I imagine them not choosing me, I feel disappointed but not emotionally undone.

67. I interpret ordinary things they do as special signs that they care about me.

68. I can enjoy time apart without feeling like the connection is at risk.

69. My mood and attention are strongly affected by whether I’ve recently had contact with this person.

70. I focus on their positive qualities so much that their flaws feel minor or irrelevant.

71. Uncertainty about where I stand with them is hard for me to tolerate.

72. I don’t need frequent “signs” that they are special or perfect to keep liking them.

73. I have trouble falling asleep because I’m thinking about this person.

74. I feel compelled to figure out where I stand with this person, and I can’t let it rest.

75. I feel a strong craving to be close to them (physically or emotionally) even when it is impractical.

76. I keep imagining “what if” scenarios with this person that I can’t easily stop.

77. I mentally scan for signs about what this person is thinking or feeling toward me.

78. I feel “stuck” in a loop of thoughts about this person (e.g., hope, doubt, replaying, checking).