Is My Mother a Psychopath Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. What pattern have you observed in her treatment of people with less power in a situation?
She generally treats them with the same basic respect as anyone else.
She can be impatient or abrupt, but usually corrects herself.
She regularly humiliates, devalues, or takes advantage of them.
She deliberately causes harm or exploits their dependence while appearing unconcerned about the impact.
2. Suppose clear evidence shows that your mother made a consequential mistake. How is she most likely to react?
She accepts responsibility and helps address the consequences.
She admits part of the mistake while defending some of her choices.
She denies obvious facts or shifts most of the blame to someone else.
She threatens the person raising it, manufactures a false account, or punishes others to avoid responsibility.
3. Which best describes threats made by your mother during conflict?
She does not threaten people, pets, possessions, or safety.
She has used vague statements such as “you will regret this” without naming an action.
She has specifically threatened valued possessions, relationships, employment, or a pet.
She has threatened physical injury or death, displayed a weapon, or made another credible threat of serious violence.
4. When you try to leave a heated interaction, what is the closest match?
She lets me leave or take space.
She follows briefly or continues arguing but does not obstruct me.
She crowds me, follows me from room to room, or uses intimidating proximity.
She blocks or locks an exit, takes away necessary keys, restrains me, or otherwise prevents me from leaving.
5. Imagine that you set a reasonable limit on calls, visits, or personal information. What usually happens?
She accepts the limit, even if she does not like it.
She asks for more explanation or occasionally tests the limit.
She repeatedly bypasses it or recruits others to pressure me.
She responds with threats, forced access, or punishment involving housing, money, care, or another essential need.
6. After her words or actions clearly hurt you, what tends to follow?
She acknowledges the impact and makes a meaningful effort to repair it.
She apologizes, although she also spends time explaining her intentions.
She minimizes the impact or says I caused her behavior.
She mocks the hurt, retaliates for mentioning it, or deliberately repeats the behavior.
7. If she becomes angry while driving or controlling transportation, what has happened?
She continues driving normally or pauses the discussion.
She becomes verbally tense but keeps the vehicle under control.
She speeds, tailgates, brakes aggressively, or refuses a reasonable stop during the argument.
She deliberately uses the vehicle or abandonment in an unsafe place to frighten, endanger, or force compliance.
8. When you disagree with your mother about an important decision, what most closely matches her response?
She states her view but allows me to make the decision.
She returns to the subject several times and tries to persuade me.
She uses prolonged guilt, withdrawal, or family pressure to change my answer.
She threatens abandonment, self-harm, retaliation, or loss of essential support unless I comply.
9. How does your mother tend to respond when something good happens for you?
She shows interest or support in a way that feels genuine.
She acknowledges it but soon redirects the conversation to herself.
She regularly belittles the achievement, competes with me, or makes me feel guilty for it.
She deliberately sabotages the opportunity or exposes private information to damage it.
10. When you are visibly distressed, what response from your mother is most typical?
She tries to understand what I need, even if she cannot fix the situation.
She seems uncomfortable but offers practical help or brief reassurance.
She dismisses the distress as inconvenient, dramatic, or undeserved.
She uses what I disclosed to humiliate, punish, threaten, or exploit me.
11. Which description best fits how affection or practical support relates to obedience in your relationship?
Care remains available even when she is upset with my choices.
She may become cooler for a while but reconnects without demanding compliance.
She routinely withholds affection or ordinary support until I give in.
She has denied or threatened essential care, shelter, food, medication, or financial access to force compliance.
12. Thinking about the most frightening incident, which statement fits best?
I have not felt frightened for anyone’s physical safety because of her behavior.
I felt a need to create distance or contact someone for reassurance.
Property was damaged, someone was cornered, or I believed physical harm might occur.
Someone was injured, forcibly confined, forced into an act, or needed urgent medical, police, or emergency help.
13. Which statement best describes how she handles your trust, belongings, money, or private information?
She generally respects agreements and asks before using what is mine.
She sometimes oversteps or breaks a promise but tries to repair the problem.
She repeatedly deceives me or uses private information for personal advantage.
She has stolen, coerced access, impersonated me, or used my resources or secrets in a way that caused serious harm.
14. During her most escalated anger, which behavior has occurred?
She has expressed anger without threatening movement or physical force.
She has shouted, paced, or made sharp gestures that felt tense but not directed at anyone.
She has smashed objects, punched walls, or thrown things near someone.
She has hit, kicked, choked, restrained, pushed, or otherwise physically injured someone.
15. When the two of you remember a conflict differently, how does she handle that difference?
She can acknowledge that our memories or interpretations differ.
She argues strongly for her version but eventually leaves room for disagreement.
She repeatedly says my memory or judgment is defective rather than discussing the facts.
She fabricates evidence, destroys records, or pressures others to make me doubt what I experienced.