Is My Husband a Sociopath Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. What best describes honesty and the use of your personal information in the relationship?
He has used deception, impersonation, private information, or financial access to exploit me or threaten serious consequences.
There has been an isolated lie that he admitted without blaming me for discovering it.
I repeatedly find significant contradictions, hidden activities, or lies that he continues to deny.
I have not noticed deliberate deception or misuse of my information.
2. How does he behave when frustrated with children, relatives, other adults or peers, or animals?
He has injured someone or an animal, made a credible threat of serious harm, or used a weapon, even once.
He has used harsh or intimidating language on an occasion but did not threaten or use force.
He handles frustration without intimidation, physical force, or threats.
He repeatedly throws objects, corners others, or uses rough physical handling without a known injury.
3. Which statement best describes intentional physical contact during conflict?
He has repeatedly grabbed, shoved, pinned, or handled me roughly without causing a known injury.
He does not use physical contact to control or intimidate me.
He has hit, kicked, strangled, burned, restrained, injured, or otherwise used severe force against me, even once.
He has used a minor intimidating gesture, such as snatching an object from my hand, on one occasion.
4. During a heated disagreement, which description comes closest to what he does?
He may speak firmly, but he allows space, does not obstruct me, and can pause the discussion.
He repeatedly crowds me, follows me from room to room, or uses his size and posture to intimidate me.
He has yelled or slammed a door on an occasion without directing force or threats at me.
He has blocked an exit, broken things near me, threatened physical harm, or displayed or used a weapon.
5. How are your choices about money, work, healthcare, or daily movement generally handled?
I can make my own choices, and shared decisions allow both of us meaningful input.
He has pushed hard for his preference on occasion, but I retained access and the ability to decide.
He has taken essential resources, created obligations in my name, prevented needed care, or threatened harm to force compliance.
He repeatedly monitors, restricts, or undermines my choices in ways that reduce my independence.
6. Imagine you are ill, distressed, or temporarily dependent on help. Which pattern is closest to your experience?
He has missed what I needed on an occasion but responded when I explained it.
He has deliberately withheld urgent help, medication, food, transport, or communication to control or endanger me.
Within his actual resources and abilities, he tries to help or find appropriate support.
He often ignores reasonable needs or withholds attention and practical help as leverage.
7. When you raise a concern about something he did, what most closely matches his response?
He may disagree, but he lets me speak and addresses the issue without retaliation.
He regularly rewrites events, insists my memory is unreliable, or makes me responsible for his conduct.
He has occasionally dismissed the concern but later acknowledged what happened.
He threatens punishment, abandonment, exposure, or harm if I keep questioning him.
8. How much have you changed your behavior because of concern about what he might do physically?
I regularly hide ordinary actions, keep essentials ready, or plan escape routes because I anticipate intimidation or force.
I have not changed my behavior out of fear of physical retaliation from him.
I currently fear imminent harm because of violence, an explicit threat, stalking, confinement, or access to a weapon.
I have occasionally chosen my words carefully because his anger felt intimidating, without a specific threat or act of force.
9. If you say no to sexual activity or change your mind, how does he respond?
He repeatedly asks, bargains, sulks, or applies guilt until I feel worn down, although he stops short of force.
He stops and respects the decision without making me pay for it later.
He continues, restrains me, threatens me, or forces sexual contact after I have not consented.
He has shown disappointment on an occasion but stopped without continuing to pressure me.
10. How does he handle sexual privacy, intimate images, or private sexual details?
He respects my privacy and seeks permission before creating or sharing intimate material.
He repeatedly pressures me to create material or uses private details to shame or control me.
He disclosed a private detail once, then took responsibility and stopped after I objected.
He has recorded or shared intimate material without consent, or threatened to expose it.
11. What has happened when you were asleep, unconscious, heavily intoxicated, or otherwise unable to make a clear choice?
Sexual activity occurred while I could not consent, even if it happened only once.
He waits until I am awake, capable, and actively willing.
He has initiated once when my capacity was unclear but stopped immediately after noticing uncertainty.
He has repeatedly initiated or kept asking when I was impaired or barely responsive, without proceeding to sexual activity.
12. How are contraception, pregnancy decisions, and protection from infections handled?
He has pressured me once about a decision but accepted my final choice.
He has tampered with contraception, removed protection without consent, forced a reproductive outcome, or threatened me over it.
We make agreements openly, and he follows the conditions to which I consented.
He repeatedly pressures, deceives, or creates consequences around contraception, testing, pregnancy, or protection.
13. During touching or sexual activity, what happens when you tense up, move away, freeze, or show discomfort?
He has missed a cue once but stopped when I made my discomfort clear.
He notices or checks in and stops unless I freely indicate that I want to continue.
He has restrained, forced, injured, or threatened me to obtain sexual contact.
He repeatedly ignores visible discomfort or treats silence, freezing, or lack of resistance as permission.
14. When he is angry while driving or controlling transportation, what has occurred?
He has driven more aggressively than usual once but calmed down without using the vehicle to threaten me.
He has used a vehicle to trap or terrify me, prevented me from leaving, threatened a crash, or caused injury.
His driving and transportation decisions do not become tools for intimidation or control.
He has repeatedly sped, tailgated, braked sharply, or refused reasonable stops while angry despite my objections.
15. How does he respond to your contact with friends, relatives, coworkers, or other sources of support?
He repeatedly pressures me to reduce contact, monitors conversations, or creates conflicts around those relationships.
He respects my relationships even when he does not personally enjoy them.
He has blocked contact, confined me, taken my phone, or threatened consequences for seeking support.
He has complained or acted jealous about a relationship but has not tried to interfere with it.