Is My Child a Narcissist Quiz

1. My child treats rules as optional when the rules interfere with what they want.

2. My child becomes cold, dismissive, or rude when they are not praised.

3. My child seems to use online spaces to seek validation (likes, followers, comments) and becomes upset when it’s not received.

4. My child takes responsibility for their actions even when there is a consequence (loss of privilege, extra chore, etc.).

5. My child’s friendships have been unstable (frequent fallouts, intense closeness then conflict, shifting friend groups).

6. My child gets very upset about small feedback (e.g., minor correction on homework or chores).

7. If my child has wronged someone, they can tolerate the discomfort of making amends instead of avoiding it.

8. Conflict between adults in the home has been more frequent or intense than usual.

9. When my child is corrected, they react as if it is an insult or personal attack.

10. My child seems overwhelmed by extracurricular demands (sports, arts, clubs, competitions).

11. My child has been under noticeable academic pressure (tests, grades, workload, performance expectations).

12. My child has been exposed to high-pressure or perfectionistic messages (at home, school, sports, or online).

13. My child tries to control games or group activities so they get the best role or win.

14. My child acts as if they deserve rewards or praise even when they did not earn it.

15. My child has been dealing with frequent transitions between households or caregivers (e.g., shared custody, rotating care).

16. My child has had ongoing peer conflict (arguments, exclusion, teasing, bullying) recently.

17. If my child hurts someone while joking or teasing, they stop and adjust when told it wasn’t funny.

18. My child dismisses other people’s feelings as unimportant or “dramatic.”

19. If my child breaks a rule, they can explain their part in it instead of only pointing to others’ behavior.

20. When a sibling or friend succeeds, my child reacts with jealousy, irritation, or tries to outdo them.

21. My child can describe how someone else might feel in a situation (even if my child disagrees).

22. My child seems more concerned with looking impressive than with being kind or fair.

23. My child shows empathy toward people who are not in their close friend group (e.g., a classmate who is left out).

24. My child can accept a fair consequence without turning it into a personal attack on the other person.

25. My child has had recent exposure to upsetting content or events (news, violent media, scary videos, real-life incidents) that seems to affect them.

26. My child has difficulty calming down after disappointments, especially when they are already stressed.

27. My child gets less physical activity than is typical for them, and it seems to affect their regulation or mood.

28. When given feedback or correction, my child can reflect on it without immediately blaming someone else.

29. My child can recognize when they have been unfair in an argument (e.g., exaggerating, name-calling, or shifting goalposts).

30. My child has been more irritable, moody, or easily upset, and it seems linked to stress or tiredness.

31. My child shows concern when a family member is stressed, sad, or unwell.

32. When my child is wrong, they can say so directly (e.g., “I was wrong” or “That was my fault”).

33. My child expects others to prioritize their needs, even when it is inconvenient.

34. Social media or online content appears to increase my child’s stress (comparison, likes, drama, fear of missing out).

35. My child has recently changed schools, classes, teachers, or major peer groups.

36. My child frequently talks about being better, smarter, or more important than other kids.

37. If my child accidentally damages something or makes a mess, they help fix it or clean it up.

38. My child seems worried about social status, popularity, or what peers think of them.

39. My child tries to get out of consequences by making excuses, denying, or twisting the story.

40. When my child realizes they have hurt someone’s feelings, they seem genuinely concerned.

41. My child has difficulty showing genuine concern when someone else is hurt or upset.

42. My child has had recent health issues (illness, chronic pain, headaches, stomachaches) that impact daily life.

43. My child becomes angry or defiant when they do not get what they want immediately.

44. After a conflict, my child tries to repair the relationship (for example, checking in, helping, or making amends).

45. When someone else is upset, my child tries to comfort them or offer help.

46. My child treats service workers, younger kids, or less popular peers with basic respect.

47. My child acknowledges the impact of their behavior (not just the intent).

48. When my child receives criticism, they can identify something they could do differently next time.

49. My child becomes upset when they are not the center of attention.

50. My child exaggerates achievements or talents to get praise or admiration.

51. My child can accept “no” or disappointment without taking it out on others.

52. When someone tells my child they feel hurt, my child tries to understand rather than dismissing or mocking them.

53. My child can admit they misunderstood something rather than insisting others are wrong.

54. When someone else succeeds, my child can be happy for them without putting them down.

55. My child’s routines have been disrupted (meals, bedtime, homework time, transitions) more than usual.

56. My child has a hard time admitting mistakes, even when evidence is clear.

57. In the past month, my child has not been getting enough sleep for their age.

58. My child spends a lot of time on screens (social media, videos, gaming) in a way that seems to affect mood or behavior.

59. My child can recognize how their tone or words affected others, even if that wasn’t their intention.

60. My child’s challenging behaviors are noticeably worse during stressful periods (busy weeks, conflicts, lack of sleep).

61. My child has responsibilities that feel heavy for their age (caregiving, household duties, work, managing siblings).

62. My child uses guilt, charm, or flattery to get what they want from adults or peers.

63. My child often blames others (siblings, teachers, friends) when things go wrong.

64. If my child makes a mistake, they usually admit it without excessive arguing.

65. My child shows remorse when they have been unfair or unkind.

66. My child compares their appearance, abilities, or possessions to others more than usual.

67. My child is willing to compromise or share when others have needs too.

68. There have been recent changes at home (move, divorce/separation, new sibling, new caregiver, financial strain) that affect my child.

69. My child has been more anxious or worried than usual lately.

70. My child can listen to another person’s side of a conflict without interrupting or dismissing them.

71. My child’s sleep schedule has been inconsistent (late nights, trouble waking, frequent changes).

72. If my child’s actions cause harm (emotional or practical), they try to make it right in a concrete way.

73. My child expects special treatment compared with other kids (e.g., first choice, extra privileges).

74. My child has experienced a recent loss or disappointment (death, breakup, friendship loss, team/club rejection) that still affects them.

75. My child apologizes in a way that matches what happened (not just to end the conversation).