Intimacy Quiz for Couples

1. When my partner touches me, it generally feels comforting or pleasant (not tense or unwanted).

2. We can laugh off minor annoyances without turning them into bigger issues.

3. When my partner apologizes, I can usually trust that they mean it.

4. We can find a compromise that feels fair to both of us.

5. My partner and I summarize each other’s point of view to check we understood.

6. I trust my partner to keep personal things I share private.

7. After we repair, I genuinely feel close again rather than emotionally distant.

8. We have a level of physical/sexual closeness that feels satisfying for me.

9. My partner takes responsibility for their actions rather than blaming me or others.

10. After conflict, we can return to warm physical connection (like a hug or holding hands) when we’re ready.

11. We give each other affectionate attention even during busy or stressful weeks.

12. We can handle mismatched desire (one wants closeness more than the other) with care and respect.

13. My partner and I can be honest with each other, even when it's uncomfortable.

14. When we argue, we avoid threats (e.g., breaking up, leaving, or “I’m done”).

15. My partner follows through on what they say they will do.

16. When one of us feels hurt, the other makes space for that feeling instead of dismissing it.

17. I don't feel the need to hide parts of myself to avoid my partner's reaction.

18. Even when we’re upset, we avoid bringing other people into it (triangling, venting to win allies).

19. I’m satisfied with how often we share affectionate touch.

20. If something is bothering me, I can bring it up without fearing retaliation or a blow-up.

21. Affection between us feels sincere, not forced or transactional.

22. We check in after a disagreement to make sure the issue is truly resolved.

23. When I share a boundary, I trust my partner to respect it.

24. I can rely on my partner when I need emotional support.

25. We express affection in the ways that matter to each of us (not only one person’s style).

26. If I realize I’m wrong, I can admit it without getting defensive.

27. We can repair quickly after small misunderstandings instead of letting them linger.

28. I feel accepted by my partner, even when we disagree.

29. I can tell my partner what I appreciate about them, even around times we disagree.

30. When we disagree, we stay focused on solving the problem rather than “winning.”

31. I feel comfortable telling my partner what I need emotionally.

32. My partner and I can talk about difficult topics without it turning into a fight.

33. When my partner asks for a change, I can consider it without immediately shutting down or retaliating.

34. We share playful, flirty energy with each other (as appropriate for our relationship).

35. We respect boundaries around touch and intimacy without punishment, sulking, or pressure.

36. I generally believe my partner has my best interests at heart.

37. Apologies in our relationship include taking responsibility, not just saying “sorry.”

38. I feel emotionally safe being my full self with my partner.

39. I trust that my partner tells me the truth about important things.

40. We make time for affectionate or intimate moments rather than leaving it to chance.

41. I feel wanted and desired by my partner.

42. I feel emotionally connected to my partner in our day-to-day life.

43. My partner and I are comfortable initiating affection with each other.

44. If a conversation starts to escalate, we notice it early and adjust our tone or approach.

45. When I share something vulnerable, my partner responds with care rather than judgment.

46. I can talk about my fears or insecurities with my partner.

47. Physical closeness between us feels safe (not pressured, coerced, or guilt-driven).

48. We can disagree while still showing that we care about each other.

49. When my partner is talking, I listen without interrupting or planning my rebuttal.

50. I can share my needs clearly without blaming or attacking my partner.

51. We focus on one issue at a time rather than bringing up old grievances during conflict.

52. I feel secure about my partner's commitment to our relationship.

53. I can tell my partner what kinds of touch feel good (and what doesn’t) without fear of hurting their feelings.

54. I feel emotionally connected to my partner during physical intimacy.

55. If I don’t understand what my partner means, I ask clarifying questions rather than assuming.

56. After conflict, we make an effort to reconnect (talk, touch, humor, or a small kind gesture).

57. We avoid “always/never” statements and stick to what’s happening right now.

58. If one of us needs reassurance after conflict, the other is willing to provide it.

59. When emotions run high, we can pause the conversation and return to it later.

60. When one of us wants physical closeness, the other usually responds warmly.

61. When I'm upset, I can count on my partner to try to understand my feelings.

62. During disagreements, we stay respectful (no name-calling, mocking, or contempt).

63. My partner and I talk openly about our sexual needs or preferences when it matters.

64. If I make a mistake, I believe my partner still cares about me and respects me.

65. We regularly show affection in small ways (e.g., hugs, kisses, holding hands, gentle touch).

66. I feel safe bringing up concerns because my partner responds with curiosity rather than attack.

67. We cuddle or sit close together in a way that feels natural to us.