Incel Test

1. It irritates me when people say “no one owes you anything” in dating.

2. I feel like I’ve been cheated out of the relationships I deserve.

3. I feel resentful toward people I’m attracted to because of my dating experiences.

4. I believe the odds are stacked against me when it comes to dating.

5. If I’m kind or helpful to someone I’m attracted to, they owe me attention in return.

6. People should give me a chance romantically even if they are not initially attracted to me.

7. I think people should look past their preferences and give “nice” people a chance.

8. When I get interested in someone, I assume they won’t be interested back.

9. I feel emotionally drained by how difficult dating feels for me.

10. I see dating as mostly a competition where only the top men win and the rest lose.

11. Dating and relationships are mainly determined by a fixed attractiveness hierarchy that people cannot realistically change.

12. I find incel-community explanations for dating outcomes more convincing than mainstream advice.

13. No matter what I do (confidence, hobbies, grooming), it won’t meaningfully change my dating prospects.

14. I believe many women knowingly manipulate men for attention, resources, or validation.

15. Most people who say “personality matters” are just lying to seem nice.

16. When I see people I consider less deserving in relationships, I feel resentful.

17. I believe I’m owed romantic success because I’ve suffered or been lonely for so long.

18. When I think about dating, I expect it to end in rejection.

19. It feels pointless to put effort into dating anymore.

20. I use or feel comfortable with incel-community slang (e.g., “Chad,” “Stacy,” “looksmaxxing,” “blackpill”) to describe dating.

21. I feel embarrassed about my dating situation, so I keep it secret.

22. I often assume I am being judged as undesirable in dating situations.

23. It feels like finding a partner is out of reach for me.

24. I feel justified in holding grudges against people who have rejected me.

25. When I put effort into dating and it doesn’t work, I think the system is rigged against me.

26. I feel angry when I see couples because it reminds me of what I’m being denied.

27. I have tried to improve my dating situation but nothing seems to work.

28. I think people who date casually are harming people like me by taking opportunities away.

29. Most dating advice about “personality” and “confidence” feels like gaslighting to ignore the role of looks.

30. People who reject me are shallow and should feel guilty about it.

31. I believe I deserve sex or intimacy more than some people who get it easily.

32. I think society unfairly rewards people who are attractive and ignores everyone else.

33. I believe women’s stated preferences (kindness, humor, values) are often just cover for prioritizing looks/status.

34. I feel like my lack of romantic success is proof that others are unfair or cruel.

35. I blame other people’s standards for my lack of dating success.

36. I feel bitterness toward potential partners because they have more choices than I do.

37. If someone flirts with me or shows interest, they shouldn’t “lead me on” by changing their mind later.

38. I believe I’ve earned affection through my efforts and should receive it.

39. If someone is romantically unsuccessful, it’s usually because the dating market is rigged against them, not because of their approach or skills.

40. I often feel like I’m competing in an unfair marketplace where I never had a real chance.

41. Thinking about my dating history makes me feel hopeless about the future.

42. Society is set up in a way that unfairly advantages attractive men and disadvantages unattractive men in dating.

43. I feel resentful toward people who can easily get dates or sex.

44. I think people who turn me down are missing out and should regret it.

45. I feel that others have a responsibility to help me not be lonely (e.g., by dating me or setting me up).

46. I find myself comparing my dating/sexual experiences to others and feeling worse.

47. When I read incel-related content, it feels like it describes reality accurately.

48. I feel angry about my experiences (or lack of experiences) with dating and sex.

49. I feel like no matter what I do, my dating life won’t improve.

50. It’s common for women to overlook “nice” or loyal men in favor of men with higher status or looks.

51. I often feel bitter when I see other people dating easily.

52. I worry that I will always be alone.

53. I would treat someone better than their current partner, so they should choose me instead.

54. I identify with the term “incel” (even privately) as a description of my situation or outlook.

55. I feel discouraged about dating most of the time.

56. I feel like dating is unfair to people like me.

57. My lack of dating or sexual experience makes me feel ashamed.

58. When I hear “no,” I often feel like it’s an unfair judgment of my worth.

59. I feel a strong sense of injustice about my lack of romantic or sexual success.

60. I relate to the idea that “genetics” (face, height, bone structure) are the main reason some people can’t date successfully.

61. I often interpret women’s rejection as evidence of a broader pattern about women rather than an individual preference.

62. Women generally have far more dating options than men and therefore treat men as disposable.

63. Rejections (or lack of interest from others) stay on my mind for a long time.

64. I often interpret dating advice as blaming me for things I can’t control, which makes me angry.

65. I think monogamy or committed relationships are becoming unrealistic for many men due to women’s standards.

66. I have trouble imagining a future where I’m in a healthy relationship.

67. Women’s dating choices are mostly shallow and focused on looks/status rather than character.

68. If someone expects confidence or social skills from me, I think they’re being unreasonable.

69. I think the dating world is best explained by concepts like “high value” and “low value” people.

70. When someone rejects me, I feel they are doing something wrong or immoral.

71. Most women only want a small top tier of men, leaving average men with little chance.

72. I avoid trying to meet people because I expect rejection.

73. I feel stuck in a cycle of hoping, trying, and then feeling let down.

74. I feel like I’m missing out on a normal part of life because I’m not dating or having sex.