How to Tell If Your Mom Doesn't Love You Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. If sexual images, videos, conversations, or adult behavior are present, what is closest to what happens?
Any discussion is age-appropriate, and explicit material or behavior is kept away from me.
She dismisses my request to store adult material more privately, although she does not deliberately show it to me.
She deliberately exposes me to explicit material or sexual activity despite my discomfort.
She forces me to watch, pose for, create, or participate in sexual material or activity.
2. When you are changing clothes, bathing, or otherwise need bodily privacy, which response from your mom is closest to your experience?
She knocks, waits, or gives me privacy when I ask for it.
She sometimes enters after a warning even though I have asked for more privacy.
She watches, comments on my body, or refuses to leave despite my visible discomfort.
She forces me to expose myself, records me without consent, or threatens consequences if I cover up.
3. Thinking about punishment or attempts to make you comply, which is closest to your experience?
She uses nonphysical consequences or conversation without trapping or hurting me.
She physically steers or pulls me somewhere despite my protest, without causing pain or injury.
She uses painful physical punishment or force intended to frighten or control me.
She uses force that causes injury, restricts breathing, involves a weapon, or creates fear of serious harm.
4. How does your mom usually speak about your body, clothing, puberty, or sexuality?
She repeatedly makes sexualized or humiliating remarks even after I object.
She uses sexual comments, threats, or shame to pressure me into sexual behavior.
She speaks respectfully or keeps comments practical and age-appropriate.
She sometimes teases me in ways that feel uncomfortable, but stops when I clearly object.
5. During a heated disagreement, what happens when you try to leave the room or take a break?
She follows me to continue arguing but does not block or restrain me.
She lets me step away, even if the discussion resumes later.
She blocks the doorway, corners me, or uses her body to intimidate me into staying.
She restrains or confines me, or threatens serious harm if I try to leave.
6. What happens to affection or connection when you disagree with your mom?
She threatens abandonment, homelessness, self-harm, or withdrawal of essentials unless I obey.
She may take time to cool down but later reconnects without demanding submission.
She uses prolonged silent treatment, rejection, or humiliation to pressure me into compliance.
The relationship can stay caring even while we disagree or set limits.
7. Thinking about food, shelter, hygiene, education, medication, or other essential care, which is closest?
Essential needs are generally met, or she actively seeks available help when resources are limited.
There have been occasional shortfalls during hardship, but she acknowledges them and looks for support.
Important needs repeatedly go unmet, and she makes little effort to use help that is realistically available.
She deliberately withholds essentials or necessary care as punishment or control, or leaves me in dangerous conditions.
8. Suppose you tell your mom that she or someone else crossed a sexual boundary. Which response is closest?
She pressures me to keep quiet, protect the other person, or withdraw what I said.
She listens, takes the concern seriously, and helps me reach appropriate support.
She threatens, punishes, or harms me for speaking, or knowingly sends me back into danger.
She initially minimizes the concern but later listens without pressuring me to stay silent.
9. What best describes physical affection or touch between you and your mom?
She has forced sexual touching, made me touch her or someone else, or involved me in sexual contact against my will.
She generally asks or notices whether affection is welcome and stops when I pull away.
She sometimes continues an ordinary hug or touch briefly after I pull away, then stops.
She repeatedly touches intimate areas, makes intimate contact seem accidental, or ignores clear requests to stop.
10. How does your mom respond to your friendships or other supportive relationships?
She expresses concerns but allows respectful discussion and age-appropriate contact.
She asks many questions or seeks reassurance but does not stop the contact.
She uses guilt, surveillance, or repeated accusations to make me withdraw from people.
She threatens or harms me, confines me, or forcibly cuts off safe support to control me.
11. If you are hurt during a conflict involving your mom, how does she respond to your need for care?
She delays non-urgent care longer than I want but eventually helps me obtain it.
She prevents care, threatens me for seeking it, or conceals an injury caused by violence.
She helps me assess the injury and obtain appropriate care without intimidation.
She dismisses the injury or repeatedly refuses reasonable care, even when symptoms continue.
12. When your mom is extremely angry, what typically happens with objects around you?
She may slam a door or put something down forcefully away from me.
She throws objects at me, uses an object as a weapon, or causes an injury.
She keeps objects out of the conflict and does not use them to frighten me.
She breaks things or throws objects nearby in a way that makes me fear being hit.
13. As you make age-appropriate choices about communication, school, work, money, or daily life, what is closest?
She may give persistent advice or check in more than I prefer, but I can still make appropriate choices.
She respects reasonable independence and discusses concerns without taking over my identity or relationships.
She repeatedly reads messages, controls decisions, or uses money and guilt to restrict my independence.
She impersonates me, takes or withholds essential money, or uses threats to isolate and control my life.
14. Which description best matches angry physical contact from your mom?
She grabs or shoves me in anger, but has not caused an injury requiring care.
She may snatch an object from my hand or physically crowd me during conflict.
She hits, kicks, chokes, burns, uses a weapon, or causes an injury.
She does not use physical contact to frighten, control, or hurt me.
15. When you are visibly upset and approach your mom, which response is most typical?
She may be distracted at first but returns to the conversation and tries to understand.
She threatens, punishes, or deliberately terrifies me for showing distress.
She listens or helps me find someone else supportive when she cannot help directly.
She repeatedly mocks, humiliates, or dismisses my feelings to shut me down.