Am I Insecure Quiz

1. I ask “Are you mad at me?” or similar questions even when there’s little evidence.

2. I avoid disagreeing because I want to keep the other person’s approval.

3. I feel behind in life when I see what others are doing.

4. Seeing curated posts (e.g., on social media) makes me feel worse about myself.

5. I feel a need to prove myself because I don’t believe I’m enough as I am.

6. I apologize or explain myself a lot to avoid disapproval.

7. I compare myself to others and usually come out feeling worse.

8. I downplay my achievements because they don’t seem impressive compared to others’.

9. I feel uncomfortable celebrating my achievements unless others acknowledge them.

10. I feel uneasy when I can’t tell whether someone is pleased with me.

11. I often seek reassurance that I’m not “too much” or “not enough” for others.

12. I feel responsible for keeping others happy with me.

13. I compare my appearance to others and usually come up short.

14. I take it personally when someone doesn’t respond quickly.

15. I feel compelled to “fix” things immediately if I think someone might be disappointed in me.

16. I feel uneasy when I’m not sure where I stand with someone, and I try to get clarity right away.

17. I feel calmer only after someone reassures me that everything is okay.

18. I feel like others have it “figured out” more than I do.

19. It’s hard for me to trust my own strengths or accomplishments.

20. I go out of my way to be helpful so people will value or approve of me.

21. I assume other people are more confident or capable than I am.

22. I judge my worth by how I measure up to other people.

23. I feel like I’m in competition with others, even when no one else is competing.

24. I hold back from speaking up because I fear being judged.

25. I feel embarrassed when I think I’m not keeping up with my peers.

26. I second-guess my decisions after making them.

27. I need others to tell me I’m doing okay before I can relax.

28. I feel inferior around people I see as more successful.

29. I feel uneasy when I’m not sure where I stand with someone.

30. I feel guilty saying no because I want to be seen as agreeable or kind.

31. If I don’t get positive feedback, I assume I’m doing poorly.

32. Compliments affect my confidence a lot—without them, I doubt myself.

33. I overthink mistakes and feel ashamed about them.

34. I feel anxious when I can’t get reassurance from the person whose opinion matters to me.

35. I take it personally if my messages don’t get a warm response and seek reassurance.

36. My inner voice is harsher toward me than I would be toward a friend.

37. When I receive feedback, I mainly hear what I did wrong.

38. I notice other people’s strengths more easily than my own.

39. When someone else succeeds, I immediately focus on what I lack.

40. I worry a lot about being rejected or excluded.

41. I need reassurance from others to feel okay about my choices.

42. Criticism (even when constructive) sticks with me for a long time.

43. I have trouble feeling proud of myself because it feels like there’s always someone better.

44. I change my opinions or preferences to match others so they’ll like me.

45. I ask others to confirm I made the right decision, even after I’ve decided.

46. I worry that if people really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.

47. I rely on “likes,” views, or reactions to feel good about what I share or do.

48. After spending time with certain people, I leave feeling worse about myself.

49. If someone seems upset, I assume it’s probably because of me.

50. I ask for reassurance more than once because the first reassurance doesn’t last.

51. I avoid challenges because I’m afraid I’ll fail or look incompetent.

52. I replay my mistakes in my mind and criticize myself for them.

53. When someone compliments me, I suspect they’re just being polite.

54. Small signs of disapproval (tone, delayed replies, facial expressions) make me anxious.

55. I feel disappointed in myself when I see someone my age doing “better.”

56. I often think, “I should be doing more,” even when I’m already trying hard.

57. If someone doesn’t respond quickly, I worry they might be upset with me and seek reassurance.

58. Compliments feel hard to accept because I can think of reasons I don’t deserve them.

59. If I’m not the best at something, I see myself as not good enough.

60. I replay conversations afterward and worry I sounded foolish or awkward.

61. I dismiss my progress by telling myself it doesn’t really count.

62. I check for signs that people approve of me (tone of voice, emojis, facial expressions).

63. I frequently doubt whether I’m “good enough,” even when things are going well.

64. I focus on my flaws even when I’m doing well overall.

65. After social interactions, I replay what I said and want someone to tell me I didn’t mess up.

66. I change my behavior to avoid disapproval, even when it doesn’t feel authentic.

67. I assume people notice my shortcomings more than my strengths.

68. I need to feel liked by most people to feel okay about myself.

69. I criticize myself for needing help or support.

70. I often assume others are more confident or capable than I am.

71. When I’m not perfect, I feel like I’ve failed.