Am I Being Gaslighted Quiz

1. I feel calmer when I keep my thoughts to myself around this person.

2. I feel tense or on edge when I’m around this person.

3. I feel unsafe saying “no” to this person.

4. Even after I reflect on a situation, I still feel unsure about what was reasonable to feel or expect.

5. I have changed my behavior to avoid triggering criticism or conflict with this person.

6. I avoid making choices without reassurance because I'm afraid my judgment can't be trusted.

7. I replay conversations in my head trying to figure out if I imagined things.

8. I walk on eggshells around this person to avoid an argument or backlash.

9. I worry that if I set boundaries, things will get worse.

10. When this person is upset, I feel like I must fix it immediately to stay safe or at peace.

11. I feel like I have to be constantly alert for a mood shift or outburst.

12. I find myself questioning whether my memories of events are accurate.

13. They minimize my feelings by saying I’m “too sensitive” or “overreacting.”

14. I feel relieved when I’m away from this person, and tense again when I return.

15. I feel dependent on this person's interpretation of events to know what is ""true.""

16. I have less trust in my ability to handle conflict because I feel easily ""turned around.""

17. I monitor my tone, facial expressions, or wording to prevent this person from escalating.

18. I feel my confidence or self-worth drop after talking with this person.

19. They dismiss evidence (messages, dates, details) and still insist I’m wrong.

20. They insist I agreed to something or gave permission when I don’t recall doing so.

21. After interactions with this person, I feel confused about what really happened.

22. They contradict themselves about important details and then accuse me of being confused.

23. They tell me I’m “misremembering” or “making things up” when I bring up a concern.

24. I feel like my sense of reality is less stable than it used to be.

25. I avoid certain topics because I’m afraid of how this person will react.

26. I worry about my safety if I challenge this person’s version of events.

27. They turn my question into an accusation that I’m attacking them, so I end up defending myself.

28. They deny saying something even when I’m sure I heard it.

29. I feel a wave of dread when I see a message or call from this person.

30. When I remember something differently than this person does, I assume I'm mistaken.

31. I sometimes apologize even when I'm not sure I did anything wrong.

32. I worry that my emotions are ""too much"" or ""not valid"" because of how I'm responded to.

33. When I’m upset about something they did, they focus on my tone or delivery instead of the issue.

34. I feel like I need someone else to confirm my version of events before I trust it.

35. I feel scared to express my honest feelings to this person.

36. I find myself thinking, ""Maybe I imagined it,"" about things that upset me.

37. They claim I’m being “dramatic” to avoid taking responsibility for what happened.

38. They use “I was just joking” to dismiss hurtful comments and make me feel unreasonable for reacting.

39. I doubt my feelings (e.g., upset, hurt, worried) and wonder if I'm overreacting.

40. I feel isolated or alone with the stress of this relationship.

41. They tell me my feelings aren’t valid because I “shouldn’t” feel that way.

42. They insist their version of events is the only “logical” one and mine is flawed.

43. I have trouble sleeping or relaxing because I’m worried about the next interaction with this person.

44. When I bring up a past incident, they say it “wasn’t that bad” or that I’m exaggerating.

45. I feel afraid that disagreeing will lead to punishment, withdrawal, or retaliation.

46. They insist I’m the one causing conflict, even when I’m calmly raising an issue.

47. I find myself asking, ""Am I the problem?"" more often than I used to.

48. I change my story or soften what I remember to avoid conflict or being told I'm wrong.

49. They shift blame so that their hurtful behavior becomes my fault for “making them do it.”

50. They tell me other people agree with them (without evidence) to make me doubt myself.

51. I worry that I am misremembering things even when I felt sure at the time.

52. I feel less confident making decisions because I'm afraid I'm getting it wrong.

53. I worry about being punished with silence, coldness, or withdrawal after disagreements.

54. I feel mentally ""foggy"" or unsure of myself after disagreements with this person.

55. They say I’m “imagining things” when I notice a pattern or inconsistency.

56. They claim I said or did things I don’t recall, and they present it as a fact.

57. They rewrite the story of what happened so it sounds like I caused the problem.

58. They pressure me to drop the topic by saying I’m “making a big deal out of nothing.”

59. I often second-guess my judgment because of what this person says.

60. I often feel unsure about what I actually said or meant in a conversation with this person.

61. I feel guilty or ashamed after talking with this person, even when I didn’t do anything wrong.

62. I feel shaky, tearful, or panicky after disagreements with this person.

63. They accuse me of being irrational or unstable when I disagree with them.

64. I feel like I need to keep notes or proof to validate what I remember.

65. After interacting with this person, I feel emotionally drained or exhausted.

66. They use selective “facts” or missing context to make me doubt what I witnessed.

67. I feel less safe (emotionally or physically) when this person is angry or disappointed.

68. I feel anxious before bringing up concerns with this person.

69. They act confused or shocked about my reaction, as if my response is completely out of nowhere.

70. They use absolute statements (e.g., “You always…”, “You never…”) to define me and dismiss my perspective.

71. They insist I’m remembering the timing or sequence wrong in a way that changes who is at fault.

72. I minimize my needs because it feels safer than asking for what I want.

73. They claim my concerns come from my “issues” rather than from their behavior.

74. After disagreements, they act like everything is normal and suggest I’m the one “holding a grudge.”

75. After conflicts, I replay the conversation for a long time and feel unsettled.

76. I have trouble trusting my gut instincts in this relationship/situation.

77. The person insists something didn’t happen even when I clearly remember it did.

78. I hesitate to bring up concerns because I expect my perception will be dismissed.

79. They use my insecurities or past mistakes to discredit my current concerns.