Touch Starved Test

1. I have regular access to nonsexual affection (like cuddling, hugging, or leaning on someone).

2. I can relax into a brief cuddle with a trusted person if we both want it.

3. In my current living situation, physical affection is available to me when I want it (with consent).

4. I receive comforting, consensual physical touch (like a hug or hand-hold) on most days.

5. I feel comfortable greeting close friends or family with a hug when it’s appropriate.

6. I get comforting touch during stressful times (for example, a hug or supportive pat) from someone I trust.

7. I like small, friendly touches (e.g., a brief hand on the shoulder) from trusted people.

8. I feel lonelier when I notice others getting hugs or physical closeness.

9. Physical touch feels like an unmet need for me right now.

10. If I feel stressed, I’m open to comfort through safe, consensual touch (e.g., a hug).

11. I feel comfortable setting clear boundaries about touch (what’s okay and what isn’t).

12. I’m comfortable being touched in public in nonsexual ways (e.g., a quick hug hello) when it’s appropriate.

13. I have at least one person who offers me physical comfort when I’m upset (with my consent).

14. I tend to lean in or move closer to trusted people during warm conversations.

15. I feel touch-hungry (like my body wants contact) even when I’m around other people.

16. I regularly have physical closeness with someone I trust (like leaning together, cuddling, or holding hands).

17. When I’m stressed, I wish I had someone safe to hug or cuddle, but I don’t.

18. I feel emotionally disconnected because I don’t get enough safe, affectionate touch.

19. I feel comfortable asking someone close to me if they’d like a hug (instead of just assuming).

20. When I want a reassuring touch (e.g., a hug), there is someone in my life I can safely ask.

21. I feel comfortable with brief, nonsexual touch as a way to show care (e.g., holding someone’s hand).

22. I feel more irritable or tense when I haven’t had affectionate touch for a while.

23. I receive affectionate touch from a partner, close friend, or family member as often as I’d like.

24. Physical affection in my life is consistent rather than happening only once in a while.

25. In the past two weeks, I’ve had enough hugs or cuddles to feel emotionally supported.

26. I enjoy giving hugs to people I’m close with.

27. I can communicate what kinds of touch feel good or comforting to me (e.g., hug, hand-hold, arm around shoulder).

28. I notice my mood improves noticeably after any affectionate touch because I get so little of it.

29. I’ve had a satisfying amount of affectionate touch (for me) in the past week.

30. I have someone who will hold my hand, hug me, or sit close when I ask.

31. I feel comfortable receiving a friendly pat on the back or shoulder from someone I know well.

32. If I want a hug, I can usually ask for one directly.

33. I feel comfortable receiving supportive touch (like a side hug) from a close friend.

34. I go days or weeks without any comforting, consensual physical touch (like a hug or hand-hold).

35. I’m comfortable offering touch-based comfort (like a hug) when someone close to me is upset, if they want it.

36. I hesitate to ask for a hug or physical comfort, even when I really want it.

37. When someone asks before hugging or touching me, I appreciate it and can answer honestly.

38. When someone I trust sits very close to me, I generally feel comfortable rather than tense.

39. I often crave physical affection more than I currently receive it.

40. I avoid social situations partly because they remind me I’m not getting affection.

41. When I spend time with close people, affectionate touch is a normal part of our connection (if we both want it).

42. I feel a physical ache or heaviness that I associate with not being held or hugged.

43. If I go a day without physical affection, it’s usually by choice rather than lack of access.

44. In the last 7 days, I’ve had at least one moment of warm, affectionate touch that felt good and safe.

45. I find it easy to receive affectionate touch without feeling awkward.

46. I find myself daydreaming about cuddling, hugging, or being held.

47. When I’m upset, I don’t have access to comforting touch that would help me feel grounded.

48. I get friendly touch from others (like a brief hug hello/goodbye) as part of my usual routine.

49. I feel that affectionate touch is realistically available to me in my current relationships.

50. I feel comfortable holding hands (nonsexual) with someone I’m close to.

51. I can enjoy affectionate touch without worrying that it will lead to unwanted expectations.

52. Even if I have friends or family, physical warmth and closeness are mostly absent.

53. I rely on things like heavy blankets, pillows, or pets to substitute for human touch.

54. I feel comfortable saying “not right now” to touch without feeling guilty.

55. I feel comfortable receiving a nonsexual hug from someone I trust.

56. There is no one in my life I can regularly receive safe, consensual physical affection from.

57. I can enjoy touch even if I’m not in a romantic relationship (e.g., hugs from friends/family).

58. I can tell when I want touch versus when I don’t.

59. When someone I trust offers a hug, I usually accept if I’m in the mood for it.

60. If I haven’t had much physical affection lately, I’m willing to seek safe ways to get it (with consent).

61. I have a dependable source of affectionate touch (partner, friend, family, or other trusted person).

62. I find it easy to give affectionate touch without feeling awkward.

63. I often feel “starved” for affection rather than just mildly wanting it.

64. I feel at ease sitting close to someone I trust (e.g., shoulder-to-shoulder).

65. I can count on getting a hug, cuddle, or similar supportive touch at least once a week.

66. I’m willing to initiate affectionate touch (like a hug) with someone I trust when it seems welcome.

67. I feel a sense of relief or calm when I do get a hug because it’s been missing.

68. In the past month, I’ve had opportunities for safe, consensual touch that felt genuinely comforting.

69. My current relationships don’t provide the amount of physical affection I want.