Dominant or Submissive Test

1. I prefer a partner who is comfortable directing or guiding me.

2. I prefer my partner to lead when deciding how to handle a relationship problem.

3. I would rather receive guidance than give guidance in a relationship.

4. When there’s uncertainty, I’m most comfortable making the final call.

5. If my partner seems unsure, I can step into a leadership role to create clarity and direction.

6. I enjoy alternating who leads and who follows across different situations in the same relationship.

7. I feel satisfied when my partner follows my lead.

8. In conflict, I take charge of keeping the discussion focused and moving toward a resolution.

9. I like to set the tone of interactions (serious, playful, affectionate) rather than follow my partner’s tone.

10. In conflict, I’m more comfortable compromising than pushing my own agenda.

11. If a partner asks me to try the opposite role from what I usually prefer, I can do so comfortably when it feels safe and consensual.

12. If my partner clearly wants to lead, I can relax into following without feeling uncomfortable.

13. I’m comfortable setting rules or agreements for how we handle disagreements.

14. I like it when my partner chooses where we go, what we do, or how we spend our time.

15. I tend to take responsibility for keeping our relationship on track.

16. My preferred role (leading or following) changes based on the partner I am with.

17. I feel most confident when I’m guiding my partner’s experience (emotionally or physically).

18. I feel safer when my partner sets clear boundaries and expectations for us.

19. My role preference shifts when I feel especially safe and trusting with someone.

20. I’m more comfortable giving direction than receiving it from a partner.

21. I find it easy to adjust my level of assertiveness to match what my partner consents to and prefers.

22. I can be decisive in one area of the relationship and happily defer in another.

23. I like being the one who sets boundaries and expectations early on.

24. In group settings with a partner (friends, family), I tend to represent us and speak for us.

25. If my partner has a strong opinion, I usually go along with it.

26. When my partner sets the pace (emotionally or physically), I feel more relaxed.

27. If I notice my partner is stressed, I can adapt by either taking over tasks or stepping back, depending on what helps them most.

28. My approach to power and control in relationships is flexible rather than fixed.

29. When we disagree, I prefer to propose a solution and ask my partner to weigh in, rather than brainstorm equally.

30. I can comfortably shift between taking the lead and following my partner depending on what fits the moment.

31. I can accept guidance from my partner without feeling like I am losing independence.

32. I enjoy it when a partner gives me clear direction about what they want from me.

33. I usually initiate important conversations about the relationship.

34. I can move from being the decision-maker to being the supporter depending on the topic.

35. If a partner hesitates, I often step in and guide what happens next.

36. I would rather follow a partner’s plan than create the plan myself.

37. I prefer to be the one who sets the pace for how quickly a relationship progresses.

38. I can openly negotiate who leads and who follows without feeling awkward.

39. When we negotiate what we both want, I’m comfortable letting my partner take the lead in the conversation.

40. I prefer to lead when it comes to defining what our relationship is and where it’s going.

41. I can give guidance to my partner without feeling guilty or overly controlling.

42. I prefer my partner to initiate difficult conversations rather than me.

43. I’m satisfied being in a “supporting role” rather than steering the relationship.

44. In intimate situations, I often want to initiate and direct what we do.

45. I’m drawn to relationship dynamics where one person leads and the other follows (with mutual consent).

46. When making plans together, I can either take charge or let my partner lead without frustration.

47. When there is uncertainty, I prefer my partner to decide what we should do.

48. I feel good when I can “hand over the reins” and let my partner take charge.

49. I find it appealing when a partner confidently directs intimate moments (with my consent).

50. In disagreements, I tend to defer to my partner’s preferences to keep things smooth.

51. My comfort with leading versus following depends a lot on my mood or energy level that day.

52. I can switch roles mid-conversation if I notice my partner needs more support or more direction.

53. In most relationships, I naturally take the lead in planning and decision-making.

54. I enjoy directing conversations toward decisions and next steps.

55. When making plans as a couple, I tend to propose the options rather than wait for suggestions.

56. I like when my partner tells me specifically how I can make them happy.

57. In intimate situations, I can switch between being more directive and more receptive based on mutual consent.

58. I feel most comfortable when my partner takes the lead in our relationship decisions.

59. I prefer to decide first, then negotiate details, rather than co-decide everything from the start.

60. In conflict, I can choose whether to take a firm stance or to yield based on what is most constructive.