Does He Really Love Me Quiz

1. When we argue, he focuses on the issue at hand instead of attacking my character.

2. He listens to my side during conflict without immediately getting defensive.

3. He does not use threats of leaving, punishment, or silent treatment to get his way.

4. If he says something hurtful, he acknowledges it and makes an effort not to repeat it.

5. He checks in on how I’m doing without me having to ask first.

6. He does not twist my words or accuse me of things I didn’t say during arguments.

7. He respects my boundaries with money (e.g., doesn’t pressure me to spend, lend, or share finances).

8. He takes responsibility for his part in conflicts instead of blaming me for everything.

9. He follows through on the things he says he will do.

10. If he can’t follow through, he tells me promptly and makes a realistic alternative plan.

11. When he is stressed, he still communicates clearly instead of taking it out on the relationship.

12. After a conflict, he makes a genuine effort to repair the connection (check in, apologize, reassure).

13. He is consistent: his behavior during conflict matches his loving behavior when things are easy.

14. He is willing to have uncomfortable conversations even when it would be easier to avoid them.

15. He respects my boundaries consistently, even when it’s not what he wants.

16. He respects boundaries about alcohol, substances, or situations where I don’t feel safe.

17. He is dependable in day-to-day communication (responding, confirming plans, staying in touch).

18. He respects my opinions and doesn’t talk over me or dismiss what I say.

19. He can talk about hard topics without shutting down or disappearing.

20. He respects my privacy (e.g., doesn’t demand passwords, check my phone, or interrogate me).

21. When I express a need, he takes it seriously and makes an effort to respond.

22. He brings up issues directly rather than using sarcasm, passive-aggressive behavior, or tests.

23. He doesn’t use jealousy, accusations, or monitoring to control my behavior.

24. He does not threaten breakups, withdrawal, or punishment when we disagree.

25. He avoids pressuring me into physical affection or sex when I’m not comfortable.

26. He takes initiative to make our time together meaningful (planning, surprises, thoughtful gestures).

27. He apologizes in a way that shows he understands the impact on me (not just “sorry you feel that way”).

28. He avoids bringing up unrelated past issues just to 'win' the argument.

29. He remembers commitments he’s made to me without me repeatedly reminding him.

30. He makes me feel like a priority through his actions, not just his words.

31. He respects my “no” the first time without trying to change my mind.

32. I can count on him to do what he says even when no one else is watching.

33. If we have conflict, he still treats me with patience and basic kindness.

34. He follows through on solutions we agree on after an argument.

35. He accepts my boundaries even when he’s stressed, angry, or disappointed.

36. He respects my time (e.g., doesn’t repeatedly show up late, cancel last-minute, or keep me waiting without explanation).

37. He accepts that I can make my own choices, even if he disagrees.

38. He does not use guilt, obligation, or “after all I’ve done” to pressure me.

39. He shows up for plans he helped make (dates, calls, visits) with reliability.

40. He contributes to the relationship in practical ways (planning, helping, problem-solving) without being pushed.

41. When we disagree, he stays respectful instead of insulting or mocking me.

42. He does not make fun of, belittle, or mock my feelings or needs.

43. He notices small things that matter to me (preferences, stressors, important dates).

44. If I say I’m not ready for a next step (labels, moving in, meeting family), he doesn’t pressure me.

45. If he gets upset, he can calm himself down without taking it out on me.

46. After an argument, he doesn’t punish me with distance or coldness for days.

47. He brings up concerns in a direct, honest way rather than hinting, sulking, or passive aggression.

48. He makes time for me regularly, not only when it’s convenient for him.

49. He keeps showing care even when he’s busy or stressed.

50. When we disagree, he stays respectful (no name-calling, insults, or contempt).

51. He respects my boundaries around communication (e.g., calling, texting, response times).

52. He supports my friendships and doesn’t try to isolate me from other people.

53. He follows through on support he offers (helping, listening, being there) rather than letting it fade.

54. He takes responsibility when he crosses a line instead of minimizing it.

55. He respects my right to change my mind, without calling me inconsistent or punishing me for it.

56. When I set a boundary, he doesn’t argue like it needs to be “proven” or justified.

57. When I bring up a concern, he tries to understand it rather than dismiss it.

58. He asks before making plans that affect me, rather than assuming I’ll go along with it.

59. When something important happens in my life, he shows up in a supportive way.

60. He respects my boundaries around family, work, or personal commitments.

61. He apologizes when appropriate and changes the behavior afterward.

62. If I’m upset, he doesn’t tell me I’m “too sensitive,” “crazy,” or overreacting to shut me down.

63. He stays engaged in problem-solving rather than stonewalling or giving the silent treatment.

64. He doesn’t punish me for bringing up concerns (e.g., withdrawing affection, attention, or kindness).

65. He can accept feedback from me without retaliating later.

66. He can admit when he is wrong without needing me to prove it over and over.

67. He tries to find a solution that works for both of us, not just what benefits him.

68. When I ask for space or time alone, he responds with understanding rather than guilt-tripping.

69. If he needs space during conflict, he says so and returns to the conversation when he said he would.

70. When I say something bothers me, he listens without getting defensive or turning it back on me.

71. If I set a boundary, he follows it consistently over time (not just once).

72. When I’m upset, he tries to understand instead of dismissing or minimizing my feelings.

73. He can discuss problems without raising his voice or becoming aggressive.