Do I Want a Divorce Quiz

1. I trust my partner to handle shared responsibilities (money, chores, parenting) reliably.

2. I feel respected by my partner, even when we disagree or are disappointed in each other.

3. We can apologize in a way that feels sincere and leads to real change.

4. I can express my needs without being mocked, dismissed, or minimized.

5. I believe my partner would treat me fairly if we faced a major challenge (illness, job loss, family crisis).

6. My partner shows willingness to listen without immediately getting defensive.

7. I feel calmer or safer when I imagine living separately.

8. I feel emotionally safe being vulnerable with my partner.

9. If nothing changed in our marriage, I would choose to leave.

10. I have a clear, persistent desire to end my marriage.

11. I believe my partner would seriously consider couples counseling or another form of help.

12. When we have conflict, we are able to come back later and talk about it more calmly.

13. I can count on my partner not to intentionally embarrass or undermine me in front of others.

14. My partner is willing to take responsibility for their part in our relationship problems.

15. I feel calm more often than tense when I am around my partner.

16. I do not miss my spouse when we are apart.

17. I have reached my limit with the ongoing patterns in our marriage.

18. When trust has been damaged, I can imagine a realistic process for rebuilding it.

19. I am staying mostly because of practical reasons (money, housing, kids), not because I want to.

20. When conflicts happen, I trust my partner will not threaten abandonment, retaliation, or “you’ll regret it.”

21. We are able to have positive moments together even while working through problems.

22. I trust my partner to be honest with me, even when the truth is uncomfortable.

23. I can picture specific changes that would make staying together feel healthier.

24. I believe our relationship can improve if we both commit to making changes.

25. I no longer believe our relationship can be repaired enough for me to stay.

26. I can bring up difficult topics without fearing a blowup or punishment later.

27. I trust my partner around potential temptations (flirting, secrecy, inappropriate closeness).

28. Staying married feels like settling for a life I do not want.

29. I have already emotionally detached from my spouse.

30. I trust that my partner would not lie to me to avoid consequences.

31. The idea of staying married feels more painful than the idea of divorcing.

32. I do not feel the need to hide parts of myself to keep the peace.

33. My partner takes responsibility for their actions instead of blaming me or others.

34. We are able to talk about difficult topics without it turning into personal attacks.

35. If we disagree, my partner can stay respectful (no insults, contempt, or name-calling).

36. Even when we disagree, we can stay focused on the issue rather than trying to win.

37. We have practical tools (agreements, boundaries, routines) that help reduce repeated fights.

38. I can rely on my partner to be consistent from day to day (not unpredictable or volatile).

39. When I picture my future, my spouse is not in it.

40. I believe my partner has my best interests in mind, even when we are stressed.

41. I do not worry that my partner will use my past mistakes against me.

42. We can make and keep small agreements (e.g., about chores, time, money) that reduce tension.

43. I would not choose to marry my spouse again if I could decide today.

44. I am willing to seek support (therapy, coaching, workshops) to improve how I show up in the relationship.

45. I believe my partner values my well-being as much as their own wants in the moment.

46. I think about divorce often (e.g., weekly or more).

47. I have the emotional energy to try repairing our relationship right now.

48. My partner is trustworthy with sensitive information about me.

49. I feel emotionally safe enough to be honest about my needs with my partner.

50. Even when things improve briefly, I still want a divorce.

51. My partner and I still share enough common goals that repair would be worth pursuing.

52. I trust my partner to keep promises and follow through.

53. When one of us is hurt, the other usually responds with care rather than dismissal.

54. I feel heard and taken seriously when I share concerns.

55. I believe divorce would improve my overall well-being.

56. I feel safe telling my partner about my fears, insecurities, or mistakes.

57. My partner respects my boundaries (time, privacy, friendships, personal space).

58. My partner has shown consistent actions (not just words) to rebuild trust.

59. I feel emotionally supported by my partner when I am upset or overwhelmed.

60. I have started making mental or practical plans for separation or divorce.

61. Overall, I feel secure in this relationship rather than chronically anxious or suspicious.

62. I feel little or no motivation to rebuild trust with my spouse.

63. When I say “no,” my partner accepts it without pressuring, guilt-tripping, or retaliating.

64. I feel more relief than sadness when I imagine being divorced.

65. I am willing to take responsibility for my part in our relationship problems.

66. I do not feel like I have to walk on eggshells around my partner.

67. I feel more hopeful about life after divorce than about our marriage improving.

68. I feel done trying to fix our relationship.

69. When my partner upsets me, I believe it is usually unintentional rather than malicious.