Am I Hypersexual Because of Trauma Quiz
Questions: 68 · 10 minutes
1. I feel unable to stop myself once I start looking for sexual content or stimulation.
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2. I try to cut back on sexual behavior but cannot maintain the change.
Never
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3. I feel like sexual urges control me more than I control them.
Never
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4. I feel driven to pursue sex when I’m emotionally dysregulated, even if it’s not what I truly want in that moment.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
5. I struggle to communicate clearly about consent, preferences, or limits in sexual situations.
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6. I notice a spike in sexual behavior after conflicts, criticism, or feeling abandoned.
Never
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7. I cross my own boundaries sexually (e.g., doing things that later feel wrong, unsafe, or shameful).
Never
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8. I continue sexual behavior even when I’m worried about negative outcomes (health, relationships, work, or safety).
Never
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9. My relationships have been harmed by my sexual behavior (e.g., trust issues, breakups, emotional withdrawal).
Never
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10. When I’m emotionally distressed, it’s hard for me to consider non-sexual ways to cope.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
11. I have engaged in sexual activity with someone I didn't fully trust because I felt triggered or desperate for comfort.
Never
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12. I feel driven to engage in sexual activity even when I intend not to.
Never
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13. Sexual urges interrupt my plans or routines.
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14. I use sex to cope with feeling powerless or out of control.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
15. If I’m feeling emotionally “shut down,” sexual behavior helps me feel more in control.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
16. My efforts to control my sexual behavior feel exhausting or futile.
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17. I use sexual arousal to distract myself from intrusive thoughts or flashbacks.
Strongly disagree
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Agree
18. I end up in sexual situations I did not plan for because I couldn’t resist the urge.
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19. I use sexual content or encounters to “switch off” my mind.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
20. I hide, minimize, or lie about sexual behaviors because I'm afraid of judgment or consequences.
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21. Sexual urges intensify for me when I’m reminded of past painful experiences.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
22. I do sexual things on impulse without thinking through consequences.
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23. I agree to sexual activity to avoid conflict, rejection, or abandonment—even when I'm not comfortable.
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24. After conflict, criticism, or rejection, I feel a strong urge to seek sexual attention or validation.
Strongly disagree
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Agree
25. After I feel shame or regret, I may return to sexual behavior again to cope with those feelings.
Strongly disagree
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Agree
26. After a trigger, I may seek sex even if I don't truly want emotional closeness.
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27. I feel restless or irritable when I try to avoid sexual behavior.
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28. I ignore red flags or personal safety concerns when I'm feeling triggered and want sex.
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29. I sometimes use sex to soothe shame, self-disgust, or feelings of being “bad.”
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
30. I sometimes seek sexual situations to avoid sitting with painful emotions.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
31. I use flirting, sexting, or attention-seeking sexual behavior to manage anxiety or fear of rejection.
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32. Sexual activity is one of the fastest ways for me to regulate my mood.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
33. Anxiety often leads me to pursue sexual release as a form of relief.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
34. In the moment, sexual urges can feel ""automatic"" or driven by a cue, rather than a thoughtful choice.
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35. I feel “pulled” toward sexual behavior even when I know it’s not a good idea for me.
Never
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36. I find myself seeking sexual stimulation even when I’m not especially interested in sex.
Never
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37. After deciding to stop or pause, I return to sexual behavior sooner than I intended.
Never
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38. My sexual behavior increases during periods when my mental health symptoms (e.g., anxiety, sadness, hypervigilance) get worse.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
39. When I feel numb or empty, I seek sexual excitement to feel something again.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
40. I have trouble noticing or respecting my own limits once I feel sexually activated.
Never
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41. I find it hard to say ""no"" or to slow things down once sexual contact starts.
Never
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42. I engage in sexual behavior even when it conflicts with my values or goals.
Never
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43. When I feel overwhelmed or stressed, sexual thoughts or activities are one of my main ways of coping.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
44. When I feel lonely or abandoned, sexual behavior feels like a way to feel connected or safe.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
45. I have taken sexual risks (e.g., unsafe sex, meeting strangers, mixing sex with substances) during periods of emotional triggering.
Never
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46. I keep going with sexual behavior longer than I planned.
Never
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47. I’m more likely to seek sex or sexual content when I’m upset than when I’m calm.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
48. If I can’t access sex or sexual stimulation, my trauma-related distress feels harder to manage.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
49. When someone sets a sexual boundary with me, I feel intensely distressed and may react by escalating sexual behavior elsewhere.
Never
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50. I notice a cycle of distress → sexual behavior → brief relief.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
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Agree
51. After sexual encounters that follow a trigger, I often feel regret, shame, or numbness.
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52. I turn to sexual stimulation (e.g., porn, masturbation, flirting, hookups) to calm myself after being triggered.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
53. I push or pressure for sexual activity when my partner is hesitant or not in the mood.
Never
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54. I have difficulty delaying sexual gratification, even for a short time.
Never
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55. Feeling unsafe or on edge can make me more likely to seek sexual stimulation (including porn, sexting, hookups, or compulsive fantasy).
Never
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56. I use sex to avoid dealing with painful memories, flashbacks, or intense emotions.
Never
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57. When I feel unsafe (emotionally or physically), sex can feel like a way to regain a sense of safety.
Strongly disagree
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Not sure
Agree
58. I find myself “craving” sexual stimulation in a way that feels hard to resist.
Never
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59. My sexual behavior has led to arguments or ongoing tension with a partner (or potential partners).
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60. I have made rules for myself about sexual behavior and then broken them.
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61. Sex helps me temporarily escape difficult memories, emotions, or body sensations.
Strongly disagree
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Agree
62. Certain reminders of my past (places, smells, dates, people) can quickly lead to sexual thoughts or urges.
Never
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63. Once sexual thoughts start, I have a hard time turning my attention to anything else.
Never
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64. I spend more time than I want on sexual thoughts, fantasies, or planning.
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65. I use sexual fantasies to distance myself from painful feelings.
Strongly disagree
Disagree
Not sure
Agree
66. I keep secrets about sexual activity that create distance or mistrust in my relationships.
Never
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67. I feel emotionally disconnected during or after sex, especially when the urge was trigger-driven.
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68. When I feel triggered (e.g., scared, powerless, rejected), I use sexual behavior to calm down or feel in control.
Never
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Almost always