Am I a Bad Person Quiz

1. I avoid making commitments I know I can't realistically keep.

2. I’m willing to change habits or routines that contribute to me hurting others (e.g., drinking, gossiping, overspending).

3. I make amends in ways that matter to the person harmed, not just what feels easy for me.

4. When someone shares a problem, I focus on understanding their feelings rather than immediately giving advice.

5. If I make a mistake, I admit it rather than trying to cover it up.

6. I am consistent about my values, even when no one is watching.

7. I avoid using guilt, silence, or pressure to get my way in relationships.

8. When I’ve harmed trust, I accept that rebuilding it may take time and consistency.

9. Before I speak, I think about how my words might affect the other person.

10. When I hurt someone, I’m willing to hear what they need from me to move forward.

11. I follow the same rules I expect others to follow.

12. If someone sets a boundary with me, I take it seriously even if I don’t fully understand it.

13. I can name my specific behavior that was harmful, not just say “sorry you feel that way.”

14. I am willing to change my plans if someone close to me truly needs support.

15. When I’m called out, I resist the urge to shift blame to the other person.

16. I notice when I’ve been dominating a conversation and make space for others.

17. I try to imagine what a situation is like from the other person’s point of view.

18. I avoid cheating or cutting corners, even in small ways (e.g., forms, taxes, workplace rules).

19. I return borrowed items in the condition I promised (or make it right if I can't).

20. If I get defensive, I can come back later and take responsibility.

21. I notice when someone is being left out and try to include them.

22. When someone tells me I hurt them, I try to understand before defending myself.

23. I try to correct misunderstandings if I notice someone has the wrong impression about my actions.

24. I pay attention to whether the other person seems overwhelmed before asking for something.

25. I check in with people after a tense moment to see how they’re doing.

26. I think about how my jokes might land for someone who’s sensitive about that topic.

27. I don't take credit for work or ideas that aren't mine.

28. I avoid using loopholes or technicalities to justify behavior that feels unfair.

29. If someone is upset, I try to listen without interrupting or making it about me.

30. If I realize I’ve hurt someone, I care about making it right—not just ending the conflict.

31. I avoid pressuring someone to “get over it” after I’ve hurt them.

32. I consider how my choices (like being late or canceling) affect other people.

33. I follow through on offers of help rather than saying it just to look good.

34. When I break a promise, I try to repair the harm rather than minimizing it.

35. I take steps to understand why I reacted poorly (e.g., stress, insecurity) without using it as an excuse.

36. I try to be kind in small everyday interactions (e.g., service workers, strangers).

37. I feel concerned when I see someone being treated unfairly.

38. When I’ve caused harm, I consider what restitution or correction is appropriate (time, money, effort, honesty).

39. In disagreements, I describe what happened as accurately as I can, even if it weakens my position.

40. If I slip back into an old harmful behavior, I acknowledge it quickly and recommit to change.

41. I can empathize with people whose experiences are very different from mine.

42. I take others’ needs into account when making shared decisions (plans, money, chores).

43. If I agree to help someone, I follow through or I communicate early if I can't.

44. I take responsibility for the consequences of my actions, even when they were unintentional.

45. After a conflict, I reflect on what I could do differently next time.

46. I avoid using past good deeds to justify current harmful behavior.

47. I tell the truth even when it could make me look bad.

48. I apologize even when my intention was good, if the impact was harmful.

49. I apologize in a way that shows I understand what the other person felt.

50. I avoid exaggerating or leaving out important details to get what I want.

51. I notice patterns in my mistakes and actively work to change them.

52. I can admit fault without needing the other person to admit fault first.

53. I feel genuine remorse when I realize I acted selfishly.

54. I admit when I don't know something rather than pretending I do.

55. When someone is excited about something, I try to share their joy even if it’s not my interest.

56. After apologizing, I take concrete steps to avoid repeating the same harm.

57. I can say “I was wrong” without adding excuses or “but…” statements.

58. I avoid keeping secrets that I know would seriously affect someone else's choices or consent.

59. When I’m stressed, I still try not to take it out on other people.

60. If I can't be fully truthful (e.g., due to privacy), I still try not to deceive.

61. If someone trusts me with sensitive information, I keep it private unless they consent or safety requires sharing.

62. I keep my promises, even when it becomes inconvenient.

63. I think carefully before giving my word, because I take it seriously.

64. When I realize I've been dishonest, I try to set the record straight.

65. I can listen to someone describe how I hurt them without interrupting or correcting their feelings.

66. I would rather say ""no"" than agree to something I probably won't follow through on.

67. I take responsibility for my tone and delivery, not just the content of what I said.

68. Even when I disagree, I try to respect the other person’s feelings.

69. I avoid manipulating people by telling them only what I think they want to hear.

70. If I’m wrong in an argument, I say so even if it’s embarrassing.

71. I try to repair harm even if the other person doesn’t immediately forgive me.

72. When I accidentally benefit from someone else's mistake (e.g., extra change, unearned credit), I try to correct it.

73. I avoid ""white lies"" that protect me but mislead other people in meaningful ways.

74. If I break a promise, I address it directly rather than hoping it will be forgotten.

75. If I make a hurtful joke or comment, I address it rather than pretending it didn’t happen.

76. I try to be honest about my intentions rather than giving misleading reasons.

77. I follow up after a conflict to check whether the other person feels repaired and safe with me.

78. I can usually tell when someone is uncomfortable, even if they don’t say it.

79. When I realize I’ve hurt someone, I acknowledge it rather than minimizing it.

80. I take responsibility for my part in conflicts instead of shifting blame.

81. When I mess up, I focus on how to fix it rather than on proving I’m not a “bad person.”

82. I feel motivated to help when I see someone struggling, even if it’s inconvenient.

83. I treat people fairly even when I could get away with being selfish.

84. When I'm tempted to bend the rules, I think about whether I'd feel okay if everyone did the same thing.

85. When someone gives me feedback about my behavior, I try to understand it before defending myself.

86. If I can’t help someone, I still acknowledge their feelings instead of dismissing them.

87. I’m mindful of how my tone (not just my words) might come across to others.