Determining YOUR attachment style Test - the question form
Questions: 42 · 10 minutes
1. I often fear that the person I love will stop loving me.
Yes
No
2. I find it easy to show affection to a loved one.
Yes
No
3. I feel that if someone saw my true self, they would never love me.
Yes
No
4. I recover quickly after a breakup. It is surprisingly easy for me to stop thinking about the other person.
Yes
No
5. When I am alone, I feel afraid and inadequate.
Yes
No
6. I find it difficult to provide emotional support to a loved one when they are in a bad mood.
Yes
No
7. When my partner is not with me, I suspect they are unfaithful.
Yes
No
8. I am comfortable depending on someone I love.
Yes
No
9. Independence is more important to me than relationships.
Yes
No
10. I do not like to share my private thoughts with my partner.
Yes
No
11. I am afraid that the person I love will not return my feelings.
Yes
No
12. I am satisfied with my relationships.
Yes
No
13. I do not need to pretend to be someone else in relationships.
Yes
No
14. I think a lot about relationships.
Yes
No
15. I feel uncomfortable depending on someone I love.
Yes
No
16. I become attached too quickly in relationships.
Yes
No
17. I have no difficulty telling my partner about my needs and desires.
Yes
No
18. At times, my partner irritates me for no clear reason.
Yes
No
19. I am sensitive to my partner’s mood.
Yes
No
20. Most people are honest and dependable.
Yes
No
21. I prefer casual relationships with different people rather than closeness with one person.
Yes
No
22. I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with the person I love.
Yes
No
23. If my partner leaves me, I will never meet anyone else.
Yes
No
24. I feel uncomfortable when someone gets too close to me.
Yes
No
25. During an argument, rather than talking things through, I say or do things in the heat of the moment that I later regret.
Yes
No
26. Arguments are not a reason to doubt the relationship.
Yes
No
27. People I date try to get closer to me, and I find it uncomfortable.
Yes
No
28. I am afraid that no one likes me.
Yes
No
29. Some people find me boring because I do not like to dramatize things.
Yes
No
30. I miss my partner when we are apart, but when we are together I feel like running away.
Yes
No
31. I find it easy to express disagreement with anyone.
Yes
No
32. I dislike it when someone depends on me.
Yes
No
33. If a person I am interested in looks at other people, it does not bother me. I may feel a little jealous, but it passes quickly.
Yes
No
34. If someone I am interested in looks at other people, I feel relieved because it means they are not planning a serious relationship.
Yes
No
35. If a person I am interested in looks at other people, I feel depressed.
Yes
No
36. If we have only just started dating and the person is cold and pulls away, I would ask what happened, but it would not occur to me that it is because of me.
Yes
No
37. If we have only just started dating and my partner is distant and withdrawn, it is not a problem; I would even be glad.
Yes
No
38. If we have only just started dating and my partner is cold and distant, it is definitely my fault.
Yes
No
39. If the person I love leaves me, I will make sure they see what they have lost (make them jealous).
Yes
No
40. If I have been dating someone for a few months and they tell me we are breaking up, I would be upset, but not for long.
Yes
No
41. When I finally get what I want in a relationship, I lose interest.
Yes
No
42. I am on good (purely platonic) terms with my ex-partners, because we have so much in common.
Yes
No